Today has been a challenge, well the past few months have been actually but today I am at breaking point and need advice for what to do. I have separated with my partner of 8 years, we were engaged but not married and do have a darling daughter who is 7. I have 2 step children that lived with us full time as there mother is an alcoholic.
The stepchildren - After getting engagaged, their mum also got engaged and I feel that they children have become very upset about it all, they started lying about me and saying that I was not very nice, they are 8 and 10. Obviously thier Dad (who carries a huge amount of guilt from his previous ex and her adiction) belived them and asked me to leave. That was 3 months ago now, we agreed counselling after a long slog, we have each been to a booking in appointment and have arranged for my step children to attend indivual appointments also. Our own daughter is too young for this so they are looking at options on how to help her to cope, though I feel she is doing pretty well, she is unaware of the accusations that my step children have said to my ex.
My step children have said a few hello's when I have seen them, smiled at me at school concerts etc. and I honestly that given the time and space we could sort this out at a family however the ex is getting pretty foul mouthed over it all, aside from the rumour spreading which she is doing whilst drunk it would appear that she is also really poisening her children against me. This morning my step son actually held his school bag in front of his face in order not to see me, this is the first time he has ever done this and I found it very upsetting. I asked if anything had happened outside of ear shot of them and my ex just said ' it is what it is ' I don't think he is encouraging them either. Which makes me think that I am holding on to some sort of happy future as a family for absolutely no reason and with little hope that could happen.
Any advice would be appreciated. My Ex is a very strong willed man, which I have always loved but now I feel as though bully tactics are creeping in and I really don't want that.