Just left with the imagination

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Just left with the imagination
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 8:12am
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago over the phone after a 2 year relationship. I was so confused because just 1 week prior to that was our 2 year anniversary and he sent me a dozen roses. He asked if he could still call me and I said "absolutely not" and I hung up on him. He sent me a text saying he still felt the same for me and hopes to stay as close as I'll let him. I didn't respond. After the weekend he sent me an email and asked us to move forward, that I hope I understand his decision and that we should be good friends. I didn't respond to this either. He hasn't tried to contact me since. Now I am left only with my imagination. I have no idea what he is thinking. I don't want to call or write..but need some advice on how to handle this. Thanks for your help.
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Registered: 04-02-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 9:36am

Hon, you are doing the right thing. He wanted the break so give it to him. It's hard but concentrate on yourself and heal yourself. Maybe some day down the road you can be friends with him, but right now is way too soon. NC is usually the best policy.

Post on the boards, journal write, write unsent letters to him, list all the negative things you can think of about him and the relationship, take up a new hobby, talk with friends, read some good self help books, take walks, punching bag did wonders for me :). Make a list of all your good qualities and repeat them to yourself everyday. You will get through this it will just take some time. Take care.

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:29am

Plus 1 to everything sasisizz has said.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 6:49pm

Welcome to the board hanala2007,


I'm confused, he broke up with you on the phone, you told him you don't want to hear from him and now you say "I have no idea what he is thinking. I don't want to call or write..but need some advice on how to handle this."


Handle what?

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 3:14pm

It's amazing how much our stories are alike.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:07pm
Well the break up over the phone was the same..but I didn't have a disagreement with my boyfriend..I was truly blindsided. In the end, it doesn't matter how they break it off..they just did. And yes, it was cowardly and not a nice way to end a long term relationship. There truly is no good way to break up, but you would expect more from someone you've been involved with for some time. Since you've already had contact with him via email, I wouldn't yet shut him out. Besides, what fueled this fire was a disagreement and when things calm down, he might rethink the situation. I would keep an open dialogue, but wouldn't keep all my eggs in one basket. I would be very aloof right now. Good luck...
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 6:37am

Thanks for the input!, it really helps!!