Keep in Touch with Ex's Family?
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Keep in Touch with Ex's Family?
| Sun, 12-31-2006 - 3:13pm |
Well it's New Year's Eve and I'm home in my pajamas, crying. My relationship with boyfriend is ending after six years of being together. He was very difficult to be around during the holidays (has anger/rage issues). We ended up spending the holidays together with my family on Christmas and his family on the days after. I love his sister (who has cancer) and his father, and the rest of his family, so I'm confused as to whether I can remain in contact with them, when I'm not supposed to be contacting him ("60-day rule").
She goes for weekly chemo treatments, and I would typically hear about how she did with her treatment, how she was feeling etc. through him. Should I continue contacting her and his dad? If anyone can offer advice on this, I would appreciate it.
She goes for weekly chemo treatments, and I would typically hear about how she did with her treatment, how she was feeling etc. through him. Should I continue contacting her and his dad? If anyone can offer advice on this, I would appreciate it.

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup.
Regarding your question: I think its totally ok to check in on them every now and then. Maybe not every week anymore.
I stayed in touch with my ex's mom after we split. It got a little tough at one point as she was sure we would get back together and kept telling me to hang in there. When the time came that I felt I couldn't feed these hopes anymore, I backed off and stopped emailing her and so did she. I sent her a Christmas greeting though and she sent me a really warm greeting back. It feels really good to know that she thinks so well of me. My ex alternately has not contacted my mother even once after the breakup 6 months ago and Im starting to think its pretty lousy of him being that they were close and he saw her every week and used to call her the coolest mother in law ever. I know that she would have loved to hear from him this holiday season.
But anyway, yeah I think its totally fine if you stay in touch but try to avoid talking about your relationship with them and dont call all the time.
I know this is a really hard time for you but I wish you a happy new year and that you can enjoy NYE and NYD just a little bit...
We're all here for you on the board when you need us.