Keeps changing his mind!

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Keeps changing his mind!
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:30am

Thanks for reading another post, but I am going insane. He came home from work last night, I now have 90% of my stuff packed and sitting in the dining room. Gets a call from his dad and leaves the room. Comes back, sits on the couch and says "we need to talk".

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 1:12pm

In any break up it's normal to go back and forth, not be sure, process grief, change your mind, etc.

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:20pm

Kwhere~


I can so relate to you, and how you feel. I use to date a guy and we went through this same drama, and finally when he invited another woman here to visit him and I found out about it, I knew how much to give him, and I knew how much to expect from him. We were off and on for five years, and he wanted me to be committed to him, but he wasn't committed to me. Our relationship was based on "week" incriments, because there wasn't a full month or two weeks that we were able to get along. My advise to you would be to just get your own place, and deal with things on a day to day basis. As you've probably heard before, time heals all wounds, and when a person is out of sight, sooner than later, they become out of mind. Initially of course you're going to hurt, but trust me, coming from a person that seems to have been hurt by men all her life, it really gets easier. And who knows, maybe not being so accessible to him and for him, will turn out to be a good thing. People tend to miss their good thing(s) when they're gone, or no longer available.


Take the first step and get your own place, this at least lets him know your standing ground, and that you are really willing to move on without him.


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Registered: 10-12-2004
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:35pm

Thank you for the posts. He's been sending messages to me througout the day regarding what we're going to do. He's standing behind the fact that he's not ready to get married and has told me he loves me a lot but he wants me to be happy whether its with him or not. When he said that - to me it meant, I just don't love you enough to give you what you want. I honestly think if someone loves someone enough, they'd do pretty much anything for that person. You want to make eachother happy. And it's not like we just started dating. We have 2 1/2 years, a dog, the next step

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:46pm

Definitely keep making tracks for the door.

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