Know I'm Going to Hurt Him...

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Registered: 02-07-2006
Know I'm Going to Hurt Him...
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 10:04am
Okay, this is somewhat of a vent...and a plea for some advice. BTW, I have been all over the boards posting left and right. Mostly I am just putting off what I know will be a painful moment.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 12:45pm

Welcome to the board eurowife35,


::If I leave him now, I think he'll be in some financial trouble because he can't afford the house payments on the house that he and his MOTHER bought together


Sounds like if he bought the house with her, she will help him. I'm sure they will work it out together.


You have to do what's right for you.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 1:05pm

have you tried counseling? it sounds like you fell out of love with him in the sense you are not in love or don't feel like you are.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2006
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:58pm

Hi there,


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Registered: 10-07-2007
Fri, 02-08-2008 - 5:22pm
You made the mistake, now you must own up to it. If you think you are living a lie, then you need to tell him. Be as understanding as possible. If you're positive you want to get out, then do it. But accept everything that comes with your decision.
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Registered: 02-07-2006
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 5:14am

You have made a good point that I'm going to have to own up to choosing to divorce. I have left a lot of details out, and didn't want to disparage my DH but perhaps I have left the impression that I am just leaving on a whim because everything isn't a bed of roses. I jumped into marriage too young and should've noticed the warning signs...but chose to ignore them because I was in love.

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 9:06pm

Many of us have made mistakes (sometimes big mistakes) in marrying the wrong people... but when we have the wisdom to face the truth, we also have the awareness and strength to change.