Leavin when you are both still in love
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Leavin when you are both still in love
| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 3:23pm |
So my ex and i had dated for a little over a year and he became increasingly busy with work. It began to really affect our relationship. He couldn't find the time to make time for us in his busy schedule. I am still very much in love with him i thought that he was the one. He is confused about what he wants and how to make the choices to make sure we work and his career does not take a hit. So we broke up. We still talk because the relationship did not end on bad terms. How do you get over a relationship where we were both honset and still want to be together but can't because he can't make time for the commitment I want?

It is def. hard. In my case we fought a lot so we broke up a couple times. We were def still in love though, even though both times he said he had moved on. but we got back together twice.
In any case I would stop talking to him as much. If you are both committed to getting back together than this shouldn't affect the relationship too much. It will also give you time to take stock of your feelings and get reaquinted with yourself. Should you guys not get back together you will already be prepared for being alone. It will still hurt but it will hurt less because of this time you are taking for yourself. And if you do end up being together you will have taken time for yourself and become a better person so you will be better in your relationship.
Hey, I'm a guy and I'm gonna say this - NO job is worth breaking up a relationship over. Why? Because in the ranking of life, Number One is your relationship, Number TWO is your job, not the other way around. You can always find new work, different work, whatever, but you can't replace the perfect mate nearly as easily.
How you're going to convince him of that, I don't have a pat answer. But I will tell you this - if you two REALLY matched, REALLY were ideal together (even if you have difference, differences don't mean it can't work longterm), he was REALLY the one and he feels that way about you, you guys need to get together and try to salvage this thing. Work will always pull you away from everything else worth a damn in life, that's why it's called WORK, and not called PLAY or FUNTIME or PAAAR-TEEEE!!!
But it shouldn't undermine what's truly important about your life - your relationship. That's paramount, I believe it, I live by it (perhaps to the irriation of my boss...KIDDING, I'M KIDDING!). Talk w/ your man again, see if you can resurrect what you had.
It's a relationship, it ain't a tissue that you toss when it's no longer served it's purpose.
Ok, now I'm worn out. Go forth and run point on this...that's a basketball term, if you were not clear.
David
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