Left after being intimate!!

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Registered: 01-17-2006
Left after being intimate!!
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 9:59am

I have been seeing a man I work with for about 2 1/2 months. We have known each other for 2 years.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 10:51am

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I'm sure it seems really heartless of him, but truly it sounds like he is being honest with you and that's a good thing in the long run even if it's not what you want to hear right now. It sounds like he cares very much for you and respects you too much to continue when he knows in his heart he's not ready and it's not fair.


You probably already figured it was a bad idea to get involved with a still married man and all the baggage that entails, but you were hopeful and wanted to "be there" for him in his time of need. You had good intentions, but it's just really poor timing to get involved with this particular guy. MAYBE down the

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 1:22pm

I'm sorry you had to go through this but you now have learned the lesson about getting involved with someonw who has recently ended a relationship--as a rule, they are just

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 1:48pm
The exact same thing just happend to me 2 weeks ago.
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Registered: 01-17-2006
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 7:49pm

Thank you all for your replies, I truly appreciate them. I also, have been through a divorce, so I am well aware of the recovery from a broken relationship.


One thing I wanted to add is his marriage has been over for 2 years and his wife has been seriously involved with another man for a long time. He told me I was the first relationship he had in a year and half, so that is why it is all a little confusing and the hurt is greater. Yes, I knew it was a risk, but I thought since the relationship had been over for that long, the risk would not be so great.


I feel in my heart that he is not over his wife, as much as he protested he was. I think all along he was pining away for her in hopes of getting his family back and when he found out that there was another man involved with his soon to be ex-wife, the realization that it was truly over, hit him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 8:53pm

Welcome to the board hurtin4now,


Sorry you are going through this.


::I feel in my heart that he is not over his wife, as much as he protested he was.


It's so important to trust your gut (or heart) feeling.