A lesson learned that maybe can help you

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Registered: 07-10-2004
A lesson learned that maybe can help you
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 10:25am
True story, written as a Aesops Fable

Once upon a time there was a man who had recently gone thru a divorce. The man went to a three day meeting shortly after his divorce and met perhaps the most attractive woman he'd ever seen.

After spending two nights sitting in hotel lobbies and hallways talking to this woamn, who was married, about their situations and how they were similiar in terms of the unhappy marraiges and how he'd resolved to get out of the marriage he'd been in, it became time to say goodbye. As he walked her to her door, he hugged her, thanked her for the conversations which has lasted until dawn both mornigns and yes, even though she was married, he kissed her goodnight/goodbye.

As she turned to walk in the door, he asked her, "Will I ever see you again? Will you be back at this meeting next year?" To which she responded with an answer that left him confused and wondering it's meaning. The woman then turned, went into her room, shut the door and the man NEVER saw her again. For the next few weeks, he searched for this woman, hoping to find her, but he was never able to make contact with her following that night. He often wondered why she'd so mysteriously appeared into his life and why he could not find her.

Exactly one year later, the man returned to the same meeting...at the same place, however this year, he brought with him a woman he had met some months earlier and loved intensely. Even though he wondered if the mysterious woman from the year before was there, , he knew the love he felt for this woman he was with now that he'd never felt the kind of love before and had no desire for anyone else. She was all he'd ever looked for. Furthermore, the mysterious woman from the year before was NOT at the meeting.

A few months later, the relationship with the woman he'd fallen in love with went sour and they went through a very tough, and difficult breakup for many different reasons. The man struggled with the breakup, because he really loved this woman and he found himself asking how long it would hurt, and if he would ever get over her.

Then one day, while pondering the failed relationship, the words the mysterious lady had spoken when she asnwered if he'd see her again at the meeting the next year hit him like a bolt from the blue:"YOUR LIFE WILL BE DIFFERENT A YEAR FROM NOW". The man realized how correct she had been 18 months ago that she had said that to him upon their goodbye,when he suddenly realized why the mysterious woman had been brought into his life. He realized what the message she had taught him was and the lesson he was supposed to have learned.

Because now, even though his heart was broken in the short term, it had already been demonstrated to him that "his life would be different a year from now" and he realized that indeed, he would move ahead, into a new, and probably even more, exciting chapter of his life will be underway a year from now and that he'd be far removed from the constant pain, second guessing and bitterness of a relationship gone bad. Everything that happens to us does so for a reason. Our breakups, the pain, the hurt...it's there for a reason. Live through it...learn from it...and take whatever lesson it is out of it and move forward when YOU are ready.

Perhaps this can be some help to some of you here now, going thru the same stuff..."A year from now, your life will be different" from what it is now.

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Registered: 12-20-2003
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 12:59pm
Thank you for this lovely story. I do believe its message.
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Registered: 06-19-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 4:17pm
Yes, its a wonderfull little story and I will try to remember it every day!

Thank you

Samie