Let it go or apologize?

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Registered: 06-18-2006
Let it go or apologize?
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:11pm

Deleted in case he lurks around here. Thanks all for your advice!


Edited 6/22/2006 7:07 pm ET by senna2006
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 10:20pm

That's a tough one. If you said some things you regret, then apologizing is the right thing to do. But on the other hand, he could be in the process of moving on, and hearing from you would really set him back in his healing process, and I think that would be the greater wrong.

So, I would not write to him at this point, but if you haven't heard from him in a few more months, then you could write and apologize.

Sheri

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 10:35pm
I thought about 'interrupting' his healing process but if he is like most of us - he probably wonders why. After reading all these post about people wanting to know 'why', I thought yes, it would set him back but it would also bring closure knowing that it was not entirely his fault. I do not know.....thanks for your response.
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 11:03pm

Do you think that "why" after three months even matters? I don't mean this in an argumentative sense... but if there has not been communication in three months or so, maybe its best just to let it go.

Now, I would like to know "why" as to "why" someone totally changed after three weeks... and now won't even communicate with me.

But three months? I just don't know.

Jim

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 11:14pm

I can understand why you want to do this, but I don't know if an email will do it, I mean, that was the vehicle that kind of drove a wedge between you to begin with, isn't it?

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 11:35pm
I truly do feel bad and have no intention of getting back together - not with him so far away. I have no hidden agendas other than to apologize for the hurt and disappointment that I caused (someone that I care so deeply for). Writing a letter sounds like a good idea but like you said - it will take two weeks at least to get there. I am a very compassionate person and I always feel responsible for others happiness and that's why it bugs me so much.