a little advice please...

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Registered: 10-09-2006
a little advice please...
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 8:31pm

Hi Ladies,

So I need some of your opinions. I have been seeing this guy for one year now he is a really great guy and we love each other...only problem he is my ex's cousin and my ex and I share two kids...
Well I had been divorced from my ex for 1 and a half years before we got together...which at the time was not a problem, but lately my boyfriend has been really insecure about our relationship due to the whole fact that I was previously with his cousin and that we had kids together..and his family does not approve of our relationship.

So my question...do I stay with the current boyfriend despite his insecurities and tell him to stand up to his family and hang in there? Or do I let him go and move on so that he doesn't have the stresses that he is caused for being with me?

Please help...thank you

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:43am
BUMP
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Registered: 11-21-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:25am

IMO I think that was something he should have thought of before he started a relationship with you and continued it for a year. But, since we cant change the past, I would make your viewpoint loud and clear to him in a discussion and see how he reacts. If he is still uncomfortable being with you, tell him to pack his stuff. He isnt worth it. If a man truly loves a woman than he should never be stressed to be with her or feel uncomfortable. No one elses opinion of your relationship should mattre but THE TWO OF YOU. Tell him how you feel, see his reaction, and act accordingly. HTH!

Good luck!

Leah

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:57pm

Welcome to the board mommyof4and1angel,


::So my question...do I stay with the current boyfriend despite his insecurities and tell him to stand up to his family and hang in there? Or do I let him go and move on so that he doesn't have the stresses that he is caused for being with me?


You can't MAKE him stand up to his family.

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 1:37pm
thank you both for your opinions...i am going to hang in there for now..i guess..we have spoken alot about this and at points we are absoulutely great and then all of a sudden it like he falls into a slump and we have a couple bad days...maybe time will work it out...or maybe not...i gues i'll wait and see