little Facebook freakout - thoughts!?

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Registered: 12-07-2007
little Facebook freakout - thoughts!?
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Fri, 12-28-2007 - 5:40pm

Okay, I am so relating to the MySpace and Facebook posts today, and I KNOW with all my heart that I don't really want to see his profile. But I'm trying to make sense of this:


Background: we broke up in May. His choice (I was a "wonderful person"

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 9:43pm

He can't see that you TRIED to search for him


but how do you know he blocked you? You can't see anyone's profile unless they accept you as a friend- so you would need to request him as a friend first.


Consider yourself lucky you can't see his stuff....I can promise you it will set you back. You will see posts and pictures and it can paint itself a portrait that may not be realistic- either way you will definately blow it out of proportion in your mind and it will make you very sad.

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Registered: 12-07-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 10:52pm

Yah, the profile thing...it's weird. When I'd typed his name in before I even logged on, there he was, with photo. Then AFTER logging on, it told me there were "no results" for his name. So I took it personally. : ) When the truth is, you can't block someone who hasn't joined. (I mean, doing that would just be psycho -- ...says the girl who indulged in a lit-tle bit of stalking today...)

Thank you for your advice. I know it's true and I feel better now. It's just stupid insecurity that he'll be happy again before I will. And the reality is, how happy my life is has nothing to do with him anymore. Not to mention I shouldn't begrudge him anything -- I'm amazingly blessed. Maybe I'll post some of that good stuff on Facebook. : )

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 12:09pm

Stay away from facebook.. this was the start of my break up.

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Registered: 11-05-2006
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 5:20pm
I wouldn't take it personally that you can't see his profile. Privacy settings on Facebook can be changed so that nothing comes up if you search for someone's name, and no one has the ability to see their profile or even profile picture unless they friend them. So I wouldn't get too upset about it when it's quite possible when he's just restricted his privacy settings :)
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 12:13am

*thoughtfully* well if it makes you feel better, my ex started spending an crazy amount of time on facebook (as per my way too nosy friends), which I took as a sign that he had and still has way too much time on his hands.

Get busy with some non-online stuff. I had so many things lined up, i was online for 1-2 hours a week maximum. And it feels good not to be a slave of the internet.

all the best


- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your