A little scared at the moment.
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| Sat, 01-12-2008 - 8:19pm |
I posted a while ago about Jeremy and my breakup. My biggest concern (besides the heart ache of course) was getting back a quilt that my mum made for me a few years ago.
I just moved back into Syracuse where Jeremy moved to to be with me back in September. I decided it would be a nice idea to see if... even though I do believe in NC, but I was hopeful... that we could be friends.
Anyway, I called him this afternoon in a friendly, neutral voice and he said he was working and would call me back later. No problem there in him not calling me back, I'm no longer really sad about it so much as just mad at him. And being mad made me think of something else I had forgotten.
Well, it occured to me today... and please don't flame me for being an idiot, I was well-aware of what I was doing at the time and regret it only now... Jeremy has nude photos of me on his computer still.
I have access to his house through his roommate who I know would let me sneak in and look around on his computer. But to be honest I have no idea where to start looking for the files. I know now that I should never do such a thing again... it was all fun "in the moment" but I'm starting to worry about if those pictures are going to circulate the net in a few months or something. Any advice? This is a tough one...
.../sigh.
Thanks for all the help. This forum is great. /hugs

Nah ... he won't post them on the internet. If he was a good trustworthy boyfriend this will never happen. My ex and I both have those kind of pictures of each other on our computers. I totally trust him that when the right time comes, he will delete them for good. At this point, I don't even care if he looks at them, and he probably doesn't anymore anyway. So yours will too.
However, if he WASN'T trustworthy, you need to find a way of getting those off his computer. I highly doubt this is the case though. How long were you guys together and when did you break up?
Eh, we fought a lot over the course of a year and a half. He was trustworthy for the most part, but he is bipolar / schizoaffective and sometimes gets in moods where he wants to just be angry. In March he cheated on me but we both sort of came around and decided it was because we were in a long distance relationship that caused that mostly... I'm not rationalizing it, it's part of the reason we broke up in the long-run, but I don't think it was intended to be "mean" so to speak. I guess his mood swings are what I fear more, but when I look at it I don't think he would either. At least I hope not. I would be a little scared to have to get onto his computer when he wasn't home to find them... especially if I couldn't find them all and then he noticed that some of them were missing, he would definitely notice that and be angry when he knew I had been on his computer at all.
I was joking with some friends saying I should just go in and re-format it but that would be destruction of private property I think. LOL too bad, it woulda been fun! :p
He had photos on his computer of some of his exes as well and I don't believe he ever spread them around. Thanks for your response.
Ditto for me. A year and a half, a lot of fighting, because the two of us both had issues. Him depression, me OCD and anxiety. He tried to bring me up emotionally
Well, let's slow you down and you ask yourself if this is really something he would do, or if this is your imagination running away with you.