The little things....
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The little things....
| Thu, 12-21-2006 - 3:53pm |
Do you wake up most mornings and cringe at the thought of doing your make-up, putting on a nice outfit, etc? I think to myself what's the point? My ex isn't going to see me. He's the only guy that I want to attract right now. If I try to look pretty, I get depressed because I always tried to look my best for him and now he's gone. And I hate it when other guys hit on me, look at me, etc. When they did that before, I always felt protected because I had the bf on my mind. Now I feel so abandoned, so helpless. I feel like i'm a little lamb and he threw me into a pack of wolves. This sucks.

Kitsy200
You should wake up in the morning and still look pretty for you!
Wow I feel the same way. I actually use the term i feel like i was droped off at a island in the middle of no where and told to find my way home. I also feel like what is the point and I too was the one who thought leave me alone i have a man at home. But now there is nothing i can do and just have to move on and realize like everyone tells me if it is meant to be it will and if not then he wasnt for me. That is very hard to comprehend for the fact we have been together for 8 yrs since the age of 15 but i am starting to see i am so young and have a life ahead of me but if you asked me a week ago i would have told you my life was over..
Anyways hang in there!!
The point is to feel good about you!! Don't dress and make yourself look pretty for anyone but YOU. And when you do, stand tall and be proud - enjoy that you are attractive to other men. Forget the ex - you deserve better!!
(p.s. trust me, I feel where you are coming from. I was there. But now I enjoy looking good and feeling good)
i can kinda see both sides of this, i felt like moping around for about a week, and i did, but now i have made lots of little improvements to make myself feel better and i am always trying to look my best. (for the most part--except maybe the walk to starbucks sunday mornings for coffee). look good for you is SO true!
to jr419803, glad ot hear you are starting to heal!
I felt like that, but really you have to wake up and get ready, put that make up on, fix the hair, so that you feel better about yourself.
~Amber
I remember feeling like that.
But now that is has been some time (three months for me) I have found that I am enjoying again making myself look pretty and even trying new styles/trends that I NEVER would have tried when I was still with my ex. So I think that is a step towards me doing things for me... he loved my long hair so cutting it off was the first thing I did! It is hard having to "put yourself back out there" but I think over time, it will seem less like hard work, and more like fun. I hope. I dont know. I cant even remember what is was like to be single so I am feeling it out as I go I guess
I just had to say that I did the exact same thing. My hair used to be down to the middle of my back, but about 3 months after my break-up I cut it all off to a cute little bob. It has now grown back to right past my shoulders, but that bob was totally cute. I think women sometimes need to do something different with their looks after a break up so they think of themselves as different.
~amber