logistical dilemma
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| Sun, 10-16-2005 - 5:08pm |
Thanks for everyone to responding to my 'Day 1 of Break-up' message. Your words of encouragement make me stronger! :) In addition to dealing with the pain of the break-up, I've got a logistical dilemma to deal with - namely giving him back the stuff that he left a my place and getting mine from his. He said he's pack it up, and I should call when I was ready to pick it up. Two problems with that plan:
(1) It would require that I talk to him again, which I have no desire to do at this point - and moreover, think it might be very bad for me if I did. (NC all the way, girls!!!)
(2) If *I* were to pick the stuff up, I'd have to drive to his house - the house I'd fantasized about sharing with him if/when we got married... Obviously not a good place for me to be at the moment. I also don't particularly want to hear his car pull in to my driveway to drop stuff off or know that he's been at my doorstep when I was out.
It's only been two days since the breakup, so maybe this will seem like less of a big issue in the future, and I can certainly live w/o my stuff 'till then, but would definitely rather get rid of his sooner...
I've thought about having a friend drive up to get my stuff and drop off his, but that seems somehow immature (though I suppose I shouldn't really worry what he thinks of me at this point...)
Any suggestions? Should I just wait a while and deal with exchanging stuff later? I feel a little bad asking him to hold on to my stuff becuase I'm sure he wants to get rid of it as much as I do his. But, then again, it seems like that's _his_ fault for not bothering to bring my stuff when he came to my house to break up with me! :) In any event, the idea of *any* contact - even being at the others' front door while the homeowner is gone sickens me right now. I just can't do it...
Thanks for any advice you can offer!
--hurtingbutstrong (though not strong enough to deal with *this* yet, apparently... :) )
| Sun, 10-16-2005 - 5:39pm |
