Long Distance killeld us.....now what

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Long Distance killeld us.....now what
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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 9:48am
So i was dating this guy for four months. He was just about the most amazing person i'd ever met, and i really believed he was perfect for me. We met at my x bf's party a few months ago and we immediatley hit it off. The only downside was that he lived an hour away from me. I saw him every month for four months, but i talked to him every night for hours. I couldnt believe how happy I was with him, and even though i hated the distance and our busy schedules, I loved him and thought he was worth waiting for. Now its over. Two nights ago he called me up and told me he couldnt handle the distance anymore, that he was getting so busy that he wouldnt be able to see me at all, and that it was killing him. He told me that he promised me when we first started dating that he would take care of me, and make me happy, and now he couldnt keep that promise. I thought that was sweet, but the mere fact that we broke up is killing me. Its been two days now, but i cant stop crying and staring at the picture of us. I dont know what to do or who to turn to because my friends arent there for me. They are all away or busy or just dont care enough to understand that i am very hurt right now. I thought he was going to last a lot longer, and...it just ended. PLEASE help me!! I am not sure what to do, and i cant stop thinking about him. HELP
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Registered: 05-21-2006
Sat, 05-27-2006 - 12:33pm
Are you absolutely sure it's only the distance that killed the relationship? Did you offer to travel to see him instead of him traveling all the time?
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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 12:46pm

If it was meant to be between the two of you, it would have worked out, despite the distance (and an hour isn't THAT far!).

It's going to take a couple months before you get over him completely but focusing on that should help. It's normal for you to be crying and upset just a couple days after the fact, but that will subside soon. I'm sorry your friends aren't there for you...do you have family members you can call and talk to?

It takes 3 things to get over someone: time, no contact and acceptance that it's over and that the two of you aren't right for each other. For now, focus on not contacting him and on the fact that if you were right for each other, he wouldn't have ended it. One day at a time...you can do it!

Sheri

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Registered: 05-18-2006
Sun, 05-28-2006 - 1:12pm
i feel the same my boyfriend broke up with me...and i also can't stop crying, i dunno what we should do but i understand what your going through i do.friends don't always mine don't. your not alone