Losing my best friend

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Registered: 06-12-2004
Losing my best friend
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 2:56am

I was talking to some classmates tonight about how I didn't understand why I was so upset over my ex. I have been through many relationship ends and have never reacted so strongly before. I haven't been eating much since I feel queasy most of the time, I cry a lot when I am alone, I think about him so much it is distracting me from my school work. I have never been this messed up over a guy before and it is frustrating.

He was one of the first people I met when I moved to my new city and we were always doing things together, first as friends then in a relationship. He helped me adjust to the weather here with snow and ice which I hadn't really seen before. Would drive me to class when it was really cold or snowy. Helped me redo part of my apartment with a new office, dining table and suggested and hung a chandelier. He gave me a bunch of useful computer stuff including the keyboard I am typing on which was his. He grabbed the monitor I am looking during the Black Friday rush so I would have it.

After telling them some of this one of them wisely said it sounds like you are loosing your best friend. Thinking about it more I think they are right.

I have never really had that close of a relationship with a man before. I have been friends with some of the guys I have dated before but I never got as close to someone as I did to him.

I still have to see him once a week since he is in one of my classes. He used to take me home from this class since it is at night. I am having trouble finding another safe way home.

I didn't really stop to think about how much a part of my life he was until now. It is pretty depressing.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:51am
I know exactly how you feel. I'm going through the same thing. I was talking to one of my friends yesterday about the funny things people say to you when you have a break up. And I was sitting at my desk at work thinking about telling him all of these funny things and I was having a conversation with him in my head when I realized that I'm not going to have this conversation with him. I'm never going to tell him the funny things that happened to me. He was really my best friend. I am mourning the loss of our relationship but the loss of our friendship is excruciating!
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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 3:39pm
I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend/ ex (he and i are on a break) is my best friend. I tell him everything and he tells me everything. He calls me about random little stupid stuff that happens to him and i do the same. I can get over him not being my boyfriend, since we already dated for four months.. but it feels like my best friend died. And its driving me crazy. Ive cried and screamed and mourned... it doesnt seem to be going away. Any suggestions on how you guys are handling it? I miss him like crazy, but I refuse to call him until he is done with his break that he needs... and frankly that I need to. I've really started to think abotu what I want and what i want out of this relationship... but the best friend factor keeps crossing my mind and is driving me crazy.