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Lost my dream guy
| Sun, 12-16-2007 - 2:04am |
Do people ever get back together again? Should I just give up all hope? Please e-mail me with encouraging words. I don't know how to go on. Many thanks!
Edited 12/18/2007 12:27 am ET by girlinlove1972
Edited 12/18/2007 12:27 am ET by girlinlove1972

I'm not 100% sure I understand the situation. But if he broke up with you and disappeared for 8 months and then expected to get back together with no repercussions - well, that's a bit much to expect. Obviously there will be issues about trust after any break up and reunion.
On the other hand, you mean you two had a long distance relationship for up to 8 months then well...it's really hard to diagnose with the information given, so, as usual, I'll just throw out some general ideas. If you're freaking out about his constant coming and going, but he's never given you any reason to freak out..well, it may be that there's a general lack of self-esteem or too much of your life has been built around him. It's kind of like..mmm, friendships. If you have ONE friendship, you're very likely to cling and suffocate that person in an attempt to keep them close. If you have many friendships, having one person blow you off isn't such a big deal because you have 49 others to replace them. Does that make sense?
On the other hand, I had one of my friends just break up with her boyfriend. He'd been international for 3 months with no real plans about when he'd come back (if ever). She compared it to being stuck in limbo, and it just wasn't something she could live with. Possibly same scenario. If his job requires frequent traveling, and it's something you're unable to deal with, perhaps it's for the best that you split.
Do people ever get back together after they break up? According to this board, they do. But you're better off thinking that you won't or else you'll trap yourself in the 'waiting and hoping' phase forever. Get on those relationship books, anything that improves you can only be for the better
All the best
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
Welcome to the board girlinlove1972,
Here's your previous post: can I get him back?
All relationships are a learning experience.... to know yourself, to know what you want and don't want in a relationship and to help us all mature and grow.