Make up to break up
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| Tue, 02-20-2007 - 1:32pm |
I am so confused on what to do. Me and my ex have had this on and off relationship for the last 8 years. I can say that I truly do love him, when we are together we are good. I can truly say that the feeling is mutual. I know he loves me.
BUT I am tired of playing this make-up to break up game. It’s getting old. When things are going well in his life (career, etc...) we get back together but as soon a things do not go his way we seem to hit the rocks. He has recently started to drink and I really had an issue with it. So he and I broke up this time because he needs to maintain and control his drinking (he doesn’t know how to socially drink, rather ends up drinking too much).
Given all his issues- I still believe in him and me, BUT this last issue of ours has really concerned me and I am tired of playing this emotional game. I don’t know what to do. He has asked me to give him some time to get over this drinking issue, but my concern is that we have going on this pattern for the last 8 years. Whats next after this drinking issue? Hes all I know, I have been with him since I was 18, hes all I know.
I am confused on what to do. Should I consider this break up the one that "broke the camel's back"?

Hi sukie, wow 8 yrs of the same pattern.
Sukie,
I know exactly what you are talking about...I have been through over 10 years of an on and off relationship. I've finally accepted that it must remain in the "off" position if I am ever going to get what I want out of a relationship. I would recommend not wasting any more of your life. If you were meant to be, there would be no "off." I had to ask myself, why do I want to be with a guy who, every few years, decides life is better without me? And then when he realizes the grass ain't always greener, he comes back. And then for some reason or another, he's gotta go check that grass again. No thank you. I'd rather be single than wait around for some guy to decide I'm "good enough" to stick around for.