Man Seeking Advice

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Registered: 02-13-2008
Man Seeking Advice
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:22pm

We broke up about 2 years ago. Her idea. No contact except for birthday cards. About one month ago she calls me. She tells me she is in a LDR with an older man 13 years her senior. She goes on to say it has been good for her, he treats her like a queen and absolutely adores her. He's got a great job and she could probably marry him if she so chose. Here's the confusion, she tells me there is no sexual chemistry. She said I was the love of her life and she would like to see me. The purpose would be to rekindle what we had. I told her I'm not going to play second fiddle but she still wants to get together.


Any insight ladies?

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:02pm

are you interested? why did you break up in the first place? Remember there are reasons you broke up and those reasons may not be gone...


but then again, sometimes we get out in the real world and realize we had something great and blew it. If that is what she is realizing, then

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:04pm

Gut-reaction:

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:27pm

Welcome to the board bigcat22,


She sees herself marrying him but wants sex with you.

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Registered: 02-13-2008
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 4:06pm
What I did do was to tell her I don't know this guy but he apparently has been very nice to you. He deserves some respect. I could not become involved while he was in the picture. She said that was impressive. I said its the truth. I also asked her if she just wants to see me so she can close a door on her past. She sais she didn't know. Quite honestly I don't believe I have all the facts. I still have feelings for her but I don't want to get trashed
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 5:27pm

I don't understand when people need this whole "seeing each other to close the door on the past."

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:35am

Hey bigcat,


Good advice on EXACTLY your situation from my "brother-in-arms" Doc Love

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:19pm
Amen, applies to both men and women.