Meeting "her"

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Meeting "her"
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 10:13am

I was in a relationship for 10 years with a man who I knew didn't want to get married anytime soon. We had a good 10 years but after a while we became better friends than we were a couple and so we finally separated about six months ago. I still have feelings for him but have done okay the last 6 months until...he met someone. They've been together for about a month, she's 26 (7 years his junior) and she's around all the time. So now I can't talk to him when I want to which is hard since he's still my best friend.

The big problem is that this man and I share a group of friends. Over the past 6 months, we'd both go out with our group of friends on Friday nights but he has just announced that he'll be bringing his new girlfriend the next time. I'm nervous to meet her, I'm scared about how I'll feel, I'm worried that I'll just start crying or trying to beat her up...how do I do this? I'm dating someone but I don't know if I like him or not and bringing him out isn't an option.

Help. I'm so jealous and nervous. :(

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:13pm

Welcome to the board mkwald,


Don't you want your current guy (or any guy you are serious about) to be your best friend, instead of having your ex as a best friend?

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:01pm

Actually I'm just "dating" the guy I'm seeing now. We're not serious and it's more of a casual thing so don't feel bad for him...he's not looking for true love right now...believe me.

And yeh, I still have feelings for the ex otherwise I wouldn't feel jealous and nervous about meeting this new girl. I'm looking for ideas on how to not feel this way.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:30pm

mkwald,