men....

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Registered: 09-15-2006
men....
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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 6:22pm
Ok, so I'm old enough to know better....
My significant other and I parted ways about 6 months ago. We were together for 4 years. He was 6 years younger than I and not ready for the things that I was ready for, so I ended things.
We did manage to remain friends, however hard that was/is. But he has managed to have his cake and eat it too. Meaning that over the past several months - about every 3 weeks or so - I'll get a call from him and we'll go to dinner or hang out and then end up doing the "deed". I've been pretty good over the past month about turning him down for "dates" and today (his b'day) not answering his call.
I guess I'm just looking for some validation - a "go sister!!" or something.
Could someone give me a shout-out?? That is really all I need at this point....but I do still need it. THANKS!
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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: peppermintloz35
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 6:36pm

He's having his cake and eat it too.. because you were serving it to him.

You go girl... you don't deserve to be someones "piece of cake".

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: peppermintloz35
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 7:23pm
Stay strong, you can to it!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2006
In reply to: peppermintloz35
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 8:52pm
THANK YOU!!!!! That is just what I needed. I was feeling a little weak- because we all have needs. But getting some positive feedback is so helpful. Thank you, thank you, thank you! YAY!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2006
In reply to: peppermintloz35
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 8:55pm
Thanks Carrie!!! It's always nice to hear other women giving props!!! This kind of stuff was SO needed by me. Thanks again!
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Registered: 05-10-2007
In reply to: peppermintloz35
Wed, 07-04-2007 - 11:52pm

Good for you! I know it isn't easy, but you're being strong and that is a beautiful thing! I salute you! You have set the boundries and respected yourself enough to keep them! You are on your way.