Messing with me!

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Registered: 11-23-2007
Messing with me!
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Thu, 12-06-2007 - 4:43pm
Gezzz... I just need some space to vent! (no one home, sorry!)
Now he is telling my close friend that I broke up with him! Aren't men funny? He asks for space even when live 4 countries apart and we are not going to be in the same continent for over a month. I cut the bulls**t and tell him that asking for space under those circumstances is ridiculous and that if he wants MORE space we better break up....
And YES technically I was the one who said the magic words, but come on! Saying that to MY friend... Cut me some slack! I was not ready to finish a 6 year relationship, I did not bailed out, no sir it was not me... He must be kidding! MEN SUCK BIG TIME!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emilia79
Fri, 12-07-2007 - 12:36pm

Hi emilia79,


It's been my experience that both men and women do this. They do it to save face with their family and friends, to feel better about themselves, not taking ownership for their part in a break up, etc.


This too shall pass.


- Don't take it personal. - The Four Agreements, by Miguel Ruiz






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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: emilia79
Sat, 12-08-2007 - 1:45pm

Playing the pity card I see.

I think it's, like carrie said, a I'm not responsible. Like my friend's who tells her that she ruined their relationship AFTER he cheated on her. hmmm. go figure


- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 11-23-2007
In reply to: emilia79
Sat, 12-08-2007 - 4:08pm
Yeah well... I guess I'm so annoyed by his comment because I still care and I will hang into anything to keep some sort of conection with him... even if I'm mad, even if it hurts.
I waited to see what happened with my annoyance for a few days, before reacting... and I started to have doubts about the whole situation... what if this whole break-up was just a horrible misunderstanding?
I called him, and he told me things got out of control... that he was not prepared for a breakup either, that he was confused and that I seemed so determined to breakup, that he felt rejected and stepped back.
So, I guess we just ruined a relationship because we were not able to comunicate to each other. I guess we both deserve what we got...
Now I'm going back to NC...