Mexican Release?

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Registered: 03-29-2006
Mexican Release?
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:14am
Hello all! I am new to this site, but i really appreciate all of the time and sincerity put into the replies to these messages and would love to hear your input on my situation. To make this short and sweet, I recently embarked on a two week volunteer excursion in Nicaragua with the Rotary club. While I was away, my boyfriend of two years, who had just returned from a cold month working on the rigs, decided to go on a vacation... alone... without telling me! He went to Mexico while I was away, during the notoriously known spring break and "Girls Gone Wild" week. When I was in Nicaragua, I couldn't get ahold of him, and when I returned I still couldn't get ahold of him, and I was worried! He always has his phone turned on, and for an entire 10 days it wasn't turned on at all. The worst part about this whole weird situation is that I had offered to go on vacation with him as soon as I had returned from my volunteer trip, but apparently he didn't want to wait for me and would rather have gone alone? I found this to be extremely untrustworthy, as Mexico doesn't exatcly have the best reputation during Spring Break, so I broke up with him. His friend and family think I am overreacting to the situation because they say that he needed a vacation, but I think a boyfriend of 2 years should tell his girlfriend that he is going on vacation to mexico, ALONE, during Spring Break. Am I over reacting? has anyone else ever had this sort of thing happen to them?
Thanks for reading, and i appreciate any sort of reply!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:58pm
Have you talked to him? What does he say about the whole thing?


Carrie

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Registered: 03-29-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:42pm
In regards to his impromptu trip, he says that he desperately needed it and that he never even talked to any girls while he was down there. Out of a gut instinct, i checked his email account that i set up for him (which is why i know the password) and a girl had already sent him a bunch of pictures. In the email, the girl said that these were pictures of what they did together, and they were pics of sunsets and bars. And then she sent a picture of herself saying "and i left a picture of me with you, so that you don't forget about me either" with a kissy lip emoticon beside it. When i confronted him, he basically told me that it was just a girl with a camera that he wanted pictures from because he didn;t have his with him. I don;t know what to believe. He has lied to me numerous times before.... i just don;t trust him.
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:37am

I'm checking in on your posting because I went thru a similar situation as you (except my ex is actually Mexican... how ironic ;)

Anyway, if you say you "just don't trust him" and you have evidence of pics/lip emoticons in his inbox, then you're going to have to make a decision. He's going to tell you he did nothing, didn't talk to anyone, etc. but if your instinct tells you otherwise, don't ignore it. I too saw emails to/from girls in my ex's inbox and he would *constantly* tell me either I was "crazy", "jealous", he wasn't doing anything with anyone, why would he keep me around if there was someone else, etc. etc. (I'm not suggesting your guy is the same as my ex, it just sounds so similar.)

So you need to make a decision... if you feel he's lying, are you willing to stay with him? How much would it take for you to call it quits? I'm trying to warn/help you so you don't go thru the pain of finding worse stuff down the road and regretting not nipping it in the bud before it really hurts (not like it doesn't now).

just my 2 cents!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:26am

Then whether or not you are overreating, you have your answer right here:

He has lied to me numerous times before.... i just don;t trust him.


Carrie