Missing my baby's father

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Registered: 01-13-2007
Missing my baby's father
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 4:25am

I was with my ex for a year, and I was 8 months pregnant when I found out he had cheated on me. Not just once...three occasions, two women that I know of for sure, and that is because these women told me themselves after I contacted them about my suspicions. There were others I suspected but never knew for sure.

I confronted him and he denied everything. It would have meant so much more to me if he could have admitted the truth and told me he wanted to work things through. I have always said I'd never forgive a cheated but this is the man I was having a child with, I loved him and wanted to be with him and my baby all as a family. But instead he took the opportunity to break it off and left me 8 months pregnant and alone.

Why would I still care about someone who could put me through that, I don't know, maybe because he was not always that way. He used to be so sweet and kind and affectionate and that is the person I miss when I think of him, because of course I don't miss being cheated on and feeling unappreciated. I just want that man I knew back. I want him to grow up and realize what he's missing out on and come around to be with me and the baby. He has been in contact for the baby's sake but has not made any move to work it out with me :(

The thought of him out there with someone else tears me up inside. I know he was doing it when he was with me but I want it to stop altogether and make him realize he had something good, I want to be the only one who is with him! I know this sounds hopeless but if there is anything I can do to make him see what he had and give us a chance I want to do it, I just don't know how. Help!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 2:23pm

Sorry you are alone and pregnant. I wish you a happy, healthy baby.

"I just want that man I knew back. I want him to grow up and realize what he's missing out on and come around to be with me and the baby. He has been in contact for the baby's sake but has not made any move to work it out with me :(

The thought of him out there with someone else tears me up inside. I know he was doing it when he was with me but I want it to stop altogether and make him realize he had something good, I want to be the only one who is with him! I know this sounds hopeless but if there is anything I can do to make him see what he had and give us a chance I want to do it, I just don't know how."

All that is normal. We don't want to face the reality of how a person is even when it's staring us in the face. It hurts. You are NOT LESS THAN because of his actions, choices, decisions, words, behavior or cheating. It was HIS choice. People do what they want to do because they want to do it. And their morals and values dictate the choices they will make.

Please take some time to boost your self-esteem to help you know that you deserve better than a lying, cheating guy.

My best to you.


Carrie