mistake? or am i in control?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2007
mistake? or am i in control?
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 12:56pm

i lived with my boyfriend for the past year of our 2.5 year relationship and one month ago he broke up with me. I havent really seen much of him or spoke to him since. he broke up with me b/c he couldnt see a future with me (very hurtful) - but part of me commends him for recognizing that we were'nt head over heals in love anymore. we were happy, but things had changed...

i saw him saturday at a party and after drinking went to go home. as i was leaving i told him he could come to the apt and stay there (it was right around the corner, late and there's guest room). when we got back i approached him and we slept together - no strings attached. after i slept in my room and he in his. when i woke up he had left for an appointment he had at 9.

is this awful? i have a pit in my stomach, i dont feel guilty, i just want to be in control. part of me wants it to happen again - but part of me fears being rejected. i just wonder what he thinks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2003
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 1:45pm

You made a mistake and you are not in control. Be honest, you don't want to have no stings sex with your ex, you want to get back together with your ex.

Please do yourself a favor and do not contact him anytime soon, get him out of your system, and I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but you really degraded yourself by sleeping with him. Do you want to be his ex with self esteem or his booty call?

So you really want to know what he thinks? Probably this: "I'm off the hook for hurting her and I can have no-strings sex with her anytime I want."