More words of wisdom...:)

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More words of wisdom...:)
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Sun, 12-05-2004 - 11:33pm

These are some of my favorite quotes. I've probably posted some of them before, but there are also some new ones. Enjoy! :)

"In a world of comparison and conformity, make your own statement. Honor your own truth. Have the courage to be yourself; risk speaking your own thoughts and claiming your emotions. Share your vulnerabilities, tears, doubts, and insecurities; let others experience the real you. Have the courage to be yourself and realize that you are a wonderful person."

"While life occasionally makes it appear otherwise, no one has contol over your life but you. Make decisions with care, because in the end, you have only yourself to blame for the outcome."

"Some people believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength...however, there are times when it takes far more strength just to let go."

"Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened."

"When all is said and done, you are a part of me. That's the way it was meant to be. People are brought together for a reason, everything happens for a reason. I believe the reason that you and me were brought together was because we complete one another. We fill in each other's missing spaces, the empty holes, and the blind spots with love. And if someday God decides to tear us apart, I trust that there is a reason. Cause if there is a reason for love, there is a reason for life beyond it."

"He's the one who'll be missing me, and I'll only miss who I wanted him to be."

"Of course you're gonna get your heart broken. And it isn't just gonna happen once, but a lot. That's just part of growing up, and it makes you stronger. Then you can handle the pain even better the next time. You may not get through it yourself, but your friends will help you to do it. And you'll be a stronger person because of it. Then, one day, someone will come along, and it will all pay off, and no one will ever break your heart again."

"There are moments which mark your life. Moments when you realize nothing will ever be the same, and time is divided into two parts: before this, and after this. Sometimes you can feel such a moment coming. That is the test. At times like that, strong people keep moving forward anyway, no matter what they're going to find."

"I'd like to believe that I'll wake up one morning and not miss him anymore. I'll finally understand that when he broke my heart it was for a reason, one I just don't understand yet, but when I do I'll know that he messed up and not me."

"Most people are searching for happiness. They're looking for it. They're trying to find it in someone or something outside of themselves. That's a fundamental mistake. Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way you think."

"Always remember--when the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go...it's time to let go."

"You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will never find that person anywhere."

"Sometimes you just gotta give up and let go while you still can."

"So I'll walk the plank and I'll jump with a smile, If I'm gonna go down I'll do it with style. And you won't see me surrender, you won't hear me confess. Cause you've left me with nothing but I've worked with less."

"You don't have to hold onto the pain to hold onto the memory."

"Sometimes what seems like surrender isn't surrender at all. It's about what's going on in our hearts, About seeing clearly the way life is and accepting it and being true to it, whatever the pain, because the pain of not being true to it is far, far greater."

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken, probably more than once & it's harder each time. You'll break hearts, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing so fast. You'll eventually lose someone you love. So, take too many pictures, laugh too hard and love like you've never been hurt, because every minute you spend mad or upset is a minute of happiness that you'll never get back ."

"Always remember to forget the things that make you sad, but never forget to remember the things that make you happy."

"It's not about what happened in the past, or what you think might happen in the future. It's about the ride, for Christ's sake. There is no point in going through all this crap, if you are not going to enjoy the ride. And you know what... when you least expect something great might come along. Something better then you even planned for."

"A heart can be broken, but it will keep beating just the same."

"Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it's the middle that counts the most. Try to remember that when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up. And it will."

"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around."

"Every story has an end. But in life, every ending is just a new beginning."

"Regrets are a waste of time. They're the past crippling you in the present."

"Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere."

"If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."

"Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up."

"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous."

"Don't worry about knowing people, make yourself worth knowing."

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim, accept no one's definition of your life. Define yourself."

"There comes this point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will."

"Work like you don't need the money; dance like no one is watching; sing like no one is listening; love like you've never been hurt; and live everyday like it is your last."

"You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad. Love what you've got, and remember what you had. Always forgive but never forget, learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong, just remember life goes on."

"This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good."

"Letting go is being thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, made you strong. It's about all that you have, all that you had, all that you will soon gain. It's having the courage to accept change, to keep moving. It isn't to forget, not think about, or ignore. It's not about pride, or blocking memories. No feelings of regret or anger. Letting go is not giving up...it's accepting...learning and growing up."

"Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart; but if it does not, be content that it grew in yours."

"Some people are settling down, some people are settling, and some people refuse to settle...for anything less than butterflies."

"It's not love that hurts. It's the infatuation with what we so blindly and foolishly accept as love that hurts. True love should never have to hurt."

"Love makes us all a little weaker, but in the end we all turn out a little stronger."

"Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, and don't put up with those who are reckless with yours."

"Just like you can't steal second base with one foot on first, you can't move on to find new true love if you're still holding on to the past."

"Don't ever be so afraid of heartache that you forget to love."

"Things don't go wrong and break your heart so that you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down & build you up, so that you can be all that you were intended to be."

"Wait for the boy who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind of boy who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person. Wait for the boy who will be your best friend, the person who will drop everything to be with you at anytime of the day no matter what the circumstances. Wait for the boy who makes you smile like no other and when he smiles you know he needs you. Wait for the boy who wants to show you off to the world when you're wearing sweats and no makeup. Most of all wait for the boy who will put you at the center of his universe, cause obviously he's at the center of yours."

"Loving someone is gonna hurt, and the sooner you let yourself feel that, the sooner you'll be able to love again."

"You can try your hardest, you can do everything & say everything...but sometimes people just aren't worth trying over anymore, they aren't worth worrying about. It's important to know when to let go of someone who only brings you down."

"This isn't a perfect world and people do get hurt...you smile when you feel like crying, you act like you're okay when you're falling apart inside, and you let it go. You move on, because there's nothing else you can do."

"Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others are sure to feel the warmth of themselves."

"Watching you walk out doesn't make me bitter about love...it makes me realize that if I wanted to be with the wrong person so much, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes."

"It's not who you are that holds you back...it's who you think you're not."

"I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself."

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 1:10am

Thank you for taking the time to post those!


They are beautiful and inspirational.


Kerry







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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 5:31pm
Thanks for the words of wisdom. Right now I am trying to gather up the strenght to move on from a relationship that is just not working, although I still love him with all my heart. I just don't know how to put these feelings into action, everytime I try I just start to cry. These words have given me a nudge in the right direction.
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 7:22pm
Hi, I was just wondering how someone can just completely stop talking to you and forget about someone forever when you had a serious relationship together? I still think about my ex but he doesn't seem to care at all how I feel about him and that I still think about him. Hes moved on and said that hes a different person now and has changed. I don't like it when people say that because we aren't really a different person, we just mature and get smarter,it doesn't really change the way we felt or feel about someone. He moved on and has dated A LOT of girls and still hasn't found the right girl yet, and he is 25. I just wonder if he thinks about me and why he doesn't want to talk to me.
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Thu, 12-09-2004 - 9:03pm

People stop talking after a breakup because it is the healthiest thing to do. It may not seem like a good idea, especially at first (I struggled with having no contact with my ex for months), but believe me--it really helps. Please trust me when I say that your ex is doing you a favor, whether he realizes it or not.

I'm sure he hasn't forgotten about you--I don't think that's really possible. And even if he did, it doesn't matter--you two aren't together anymore. Him remembering you wouldn't change the end result. I'm not trying to sound unsympathetic or harsh; believe me, I've had trouble with this myself--I was scared to death at the thought of my ex forgetting about me. And I was really confused about how he could do such a thing, especially since we had spent the past 2+ years being so close. After the breakup, he started acting like I didn't exist and it hurt a LOT. I just didn't understand how he could act so distant towards me...and I did not want him to be able to forget me.

But trying to maintain contact with him was only hurting me in the end. I felt worse and worse each time. Having contact with my ex was just giving me false hope...so I've stopped. And I honestly feel a lot better. Sometimes it's still hurts to think that my ex could forget me--but I just keep reminding myself that it really doesn't matter. People DO drift apart, they change (although usually not for the better), and move on with their lives. I'm sure my ex still thinks of me occasionally, and I know I will always remember him--but eventually I will forget how it felt to love him...and why I ever did in the first place. You will reach that point as well. Until then, stay strong and have no contact--it really is for the best. Believe me--it took me months of pain to realize this. Don't do what I did and try to hold onto nothing...don't worry about your ex forgetting you. Just try to stay busy and continue to live your own life. You will make it! <3