Moved out...now he wants me back!!
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| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 10:40am |
Quick summary - I was in a rocky relationship for approx 2 years. We were living together and fighting all the time - we had a *huge* blow up before he left for a long business trip. I woke up the next morning and decided that was it....I was leaving. I moved out 2 days after he got back...he was really nasty and said a lot of mean spirited things (I have to admit - I stayed pretty calm). The car that I was driving was in his name (we would both pay 1/2 and 1/2 for the payment and ins) and although I offered him $200 to let me drive it for another 1-2 weeks while at my parents until I could get something else, he said no - so I've been without a car for the last two weeks (although he has his own and that one would literally just *sit* in the driveway).
We also had a puppy - which I paid for and took care of at least 90% of the time. He was constantly saying how the dog made too much of a mess and how we had to get rid of her, etc.
Sooo....all is said and done - I have moved out. I have rented an apartment but am staying at my parents until this week-end when I'll be ready to move. On the week-end I was able to lease a car and will pick it up tomorrow night (woo hoo!!).
Soo....I get this *loong* email from him on Sunday night, saying how he is soooooo sorry, etc., that I am the best thing that's ever happened to him, etc. etc. and that he was wrong about everything. He goes on to say how much he misses the dog (yeah right) and me and how he was an @sshole to me before I left, etc. He went on to say that he is planning on getting a small place himself and he wants us to still be together (altough living separately). Since then, he has been MSN-ing me and calling, saying that he wants to get together for lunch/dinner/coffee because he has a *plan* he wants to talk to me about. Plan??? lol. I told him that I have too much on my mind right now and don't want to talk to him (in reality - I just want to ensure that our shared bills are covered before I tell him to take a hike!!).
I feel like a mean witch saying all of this....but men!! I wonder if he thought I wouldn't be *able* to leave him (something he's said in the past when we've fought - e.g. "I don't know *how* you're going to make it on your own or *who* will help you to move all your stuff."). Hmmpph!!!
He wrote in his letter - "It took this drastic action (e.g. me moving out) to realize how wrong I've been." Well honey - too little too late!!
In all honesty, it seems to be making the break up that much harder...but I know that soon I will be in my own place and things will get better.......
Any similar experiences out there??
Mel :(

Hang in there...it might help to make a set of index cards with one for each reason why you ended it. I know that's helped me to stay strong in the past when the ex starts calling and saying he wants me back...
Sheri
I'm glad to hear you're not thinking of going back to him. And good for you for making sure you're shared bills are in order before burning that bridge.
I'm sure things will be better once you are in your own place.
My bf and I broke up Fri night and he called me Saturday, Sunday and emailed me today. Funny how when I asked him to move in with me he said no but now that it's over he's all "lets move in together". Too Late!
Chin up! You're doing the right thing for you :)
Sheryl
ps. I'm going to take Sheri's suggestion about the index cards. Thanks Sheri! good idea!