Moving into the ANGER phase..grrr
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Moving into the ANGER phase..grrr
| Sat, 12-02-2006 - 10:00am |
It has been two months since the big day, and now instead of crying when I think about our relationship, I am finally angry. I think this is progress (at least now I can function as a human!). I don't want to get back together with him. I think seeing him on a date with a coworker really helped me realize that it is over. The only thing that is still getting me is that he has never called me. All these people on this board are getting calls from their exes, but I have a silent phone. I know, I know, it's a good thing, because it will only put me back to the sad, reminiscent phase, but it would still be nice to know that he thinks of me! The anger phase has also allowed me to be more hopeful about my future with another man, although I realize that I need to get over the anger first so I don't drag that baggage into a relationship. The one thing that I'm liking about this phase is that I am learning that it's okay to stick up for myself, and that I have the right to be aggressive. I'm usually very sensitive to other people, and worried about their feelings. This is not a totally bad thing, but I want to start worrying a little more about my feelings from now on. If I'm not happy with a situation, I am going to do something about it!

I was in the anger stage around the 2 month stage of getting dumped. It has now been 5 months for me and I still have a little anger at times but each month does get better and it will get better for you especially, since there is no contact. My ex dumped me over Father's Day weekend (basically ran without telling me why) and after the hurt stage of always crying and not eating, the anger stage hit me like a ton of bricks. I have not had any contact with him what so ever and that is a great thing because it does make the healing process move in more quickly. Be thankful that you have not heard from him because that is a sign that you can move on to bigger and better things. I saw an Oprah episode last week about how these strong women celebrites overcame their emotional pain (mostly from a breakup) and started learning lessons about themselves and most all agreed that we women change ourselves for a man which is so wrong. After watching that episode, I realized that I was just like that with my ex and now I am going to start being myself and will stay myself whenever the next boyfriend comes into my life. You hang in there and keep concentrating on yourself and enjoy life. The anger stage may stay with you for awhile but it will decrease with time and my advice is to start a journal if you haven't already. You will see that each month as you write in your journal that each entry is a happier one.
Take Care!