Moving Out

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Registered: 07-05-2002
Moving Out
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:37am

In November 2006, I went to drop a letter in the mailbox (near my boyfriend's place of work) and saw him talking on his cellphone. Figuring I'd say hi, I went over and he got very angry with me. It was hovering around 10 degrees, and he would not let me sit in his car. He said, "You've got your own car, go sit in it."

A week before, I had talked to him a week or so earlier about marriage (as we've been together a long time and I want kids; I had posted about this situation before). Long story short, he said he didn't know if he wanted to marry me anymore. In January, we got into a big blowout because I caught him on the phone again (my friends and checked on him two days in a row), he said it was over.

Well, he's still living with me. I gave him a final move out date of April 1st. He said he was going to move out May 1st. The last few weeks, he's been treating me better (such as helping with dishes and stuff, as I do EVERYTHING), but today he announces he still wants to move out but doesn't have the money. He also joked that he needed to find a sugar momma who will buy him things. Well, I paid for everything when he was finishing school

He stopped telling me loved me when I confronted him in November. So, why does he stay? What should I do?

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Registered: 02-28-2007
In reply to: worddiva76
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:12am
He stays because its cheaper to live with you then find a place on his own. Harsh enough for you? He thinks that by doing things around the apartment, you will cave and let him stay. Give him a deadline again and make him stick to it. Go to Walmart... buy him some boxes and when he doesn't move out... take the liberty of doing it for him. Boxes on the front porch are always a good reminder that he is not wanted.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: worddiva76
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:56am
Like Lindsey says - because you are the sugar momma. It is easier for him to stay.