Mr. "OK" PLEASE HELP!- UPDATE!!!
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|Thu, 03-20-2014 - 7:03pm|
I have been dating a guy for over a year and I was really happy with our relationship. I work a lot and he works a lot, but we always managed to see each other. I gave him a key to my place a couple of months ago, but he really hasn't used it. At times I would get angry because he would tell me he is coming to see me and never shows up. It was becoming an habit and I was really getting fed up. This past weekend, we were both off and I expected him to at least spend some time with me. We chatted all day about him being tired. He called me later that day as he was headed home from his cousin's house. Well he was just going home to change clothes and he was going back over to his cousin house. I felt some type of way about that. Mind you, I have not seen him in 3 weeks so I just told him I will talk to him later. I sat on my sofa and just thought about how inconsiderate he was being. I thought about all the times he told me he was coming over and he never showed up. I thought about when he told me he was going to spend the week with me and something "suddenly" came up. I thought about the talks we had about him being able to see me more since I live much closer to his job. I took a deep breath and I text him that I think it was time that we go our separate ways. It took me about 30 minutes to press the send button, but I did it. He responded back with "ok." I could believe the response, but I thought we were better than just "ok." He didn't even ask why. We dated over a year and he has met my parents. He always stayed in contact with me through text or phone, but him not making an effort to physically be with me bothered me. When I told him I will need my key back, he brought it to me with no delay. I was hurt by that. You haven't seen me in three weeks but, when it comes to giving my key back you have no problem driving to my place. Now I am left analyzing what the hell happened. I had to miss something. Besides not seeing him like I wanted, we talked everyday and he never skipped telling me that he loved me each day. He always expressed that he missed me and we talked about him moving in and how our relationship would turn into marriage. YES! We talked about marriage and having his child next year. Usually it's the female that brings up moving in and marriage, but he was the one that brought up the topics. It kind of put me at ease because I was thinking he is some kind of wonderful. I was fine for the first 2 days, but today is day 3 and I am feeling horrible. I cried and a part of me keeps wondering if I did the right thing, but a part of me knows I did. I feel like we could have talked this through, but he didn't question the break up. I feel like our whole relationship was a lie, just because of that one response "ok." I haven't heard from him and I don't think I will. I know I shouldn't expect to hear from him because I broke up with him, but if he felt any kind of love for me...I just thought he would call and want to work everything out. What do you think?