"mutual friend"

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Registered: 12-21-2005
"mutual friend"
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Thu, 12-22-2005 - 9:56am

Here is the story (well, my side of it)

There is this guy called "Josh" who was a friend of my bf, "Ken". I was introduced to Josh and soon I got these weird vibes from him but I thought to myself, "No...he's Ken's friend." But then he had a love confession for me. Over MSN. I was disgusted at his behavior (not to mention his looks, and generally him as a person). So I showed my bf. He was angry. For a bit. Despite this, I tried to keep it somewhat "normal" between Josh since my bf was still friends with him and I realized I'll be seeing him around. But then Josh kept telling me horrible things about Ken and "helping me get over him". (Ken and I have lots of problems and Josh knows bits and pieces of it from both of us.)
Josh began playing different sides whenever he was with one person, and I started to notice that he was trying to screw us up with his little tactics. But I was too late, Ken has already figured out I've told Josh some things and then got mad at me for it. But Josh and him? Still good friends. In fact last I heard from them they were calling me a golddigger and dissing me and having a good ol time. I know Josh is just bitter because I told him I couldn't be friends with him again and that he wasn't my type (I only did so because he kept bringing up the subject of how much he likes me blah blah blah--BARF!) So I've lost my first love, and I know he's partly to blame. It hurts that he chose his "buddy" over me, especially since I've been with Ken for 2 years and 8 mos while he met this Josh online through a local car club forum for about 6 mos - 1 year max. Of course, there were lots of problems between me and Ken already, but I felt Josh had no business in meddling and trying to break us up. Worst part is, they're talking about me in the worst ways and it hurts. Why wouldn't Ken defend me? I would always defend him. He knows it too...

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 12-22-2005 - 11:58am

::I felt Josh had no business in meddling and trying to break us up.

You both INVITED Josh into your business by talking about each other to him.

I know you hurt and I know it's hard to get over.....Ken sides with him, keeps him as a friend, well only he can say, my guess is they have more in common and aren't willing to address the issues between them so it's easier to ignore what happen and go on like nothing happend.

Good luck on your healing path.


Carrie