my bf just stop calling me for no reason
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my bf just stop calling me for no reason
| Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:29pm |
my bf for 3 1/2 months just stop calling me for no reason..i been calling him but his ignoring my phone calls seems that he doesnt want to talk to me. what sould i do? i miss him so much!!

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Okay, so for whatever reason, this guy is blowing you off. Instead of being a man and ending things with you, he's taking the cowards way out and hoping you'll either get the hint or get so pissed that YOU dump HIM, so that in his mind he's not the bad guy because he's the dumped, not the dumper.
Either way, he's sending a strong message that you just aren't registering on his list of priorities.
No I don't think you did the right thing. He stood you up and then tells you it's your fault that he's now blowing you off because you'll (rightly) be angry and impatient with him. No wonder this guy has an XW, women want a man, not a whiney emotional black hole. You can be there for him as a friend, but if you'll have to walk on eggshells and constantly be aware of not having even a bad conversation with him, good lord, that's just too much.
He's got far too many personal issues here if he said what you say he did. I suggest you give him the book Bad Childhood, GOOD LIFE! and tell him that his past is crippling his present and killing his future.
Edited 2/1/2006 1:16 pm ET by angelicafox
Well if you're allowing your mind to stay dwelling on what you WISH this guy had been instead of focusing your mind on moving on, you're going to just get more depressed and only hurt yourself more. It's like he's been smacking you with a stick, and suddenly he stopped. So you pick up the stick and continue smacking yourself with it because even though it's painful, it reminds you of him smacking you with it. Doesn't make much sense to keep doing it when it's put that way does it?
So you've got *feelings* for him. So what. Feelings aren't facts, because they're subject to change. But once again, if you dwell on these feelings, you'll never get past them.
"and its almost valentine now "
And the point is? A synthetic made up holiday is almost here. February 14th is going to follow February 13th and be preceded by February 15th just like it is every year. If the day is celebrated, it's celebrated as a day of love. Showing love, because love is something you do, not something you feel. Just like not celebrating Vday shouldn't suddenly null and void the other 364 days of the year when love is show, *celebrating* it shouldn't null and void the 364 days that it's not. This guy couldn't/wouldn't go out of his way to call you. You think he'll go out of his way to get you flowers or a card?
What should you do?
Stop being so concerned with having A guy, and start being concerned about having the RIGHT guy.
Hi Jazz_Meeh,
I am sorry that you are feeling horrible over the situation with your boyfriend. In my opionion only I think that it would be better to let him go. I do not think that he deserves someone so understanding as you and he has a lot of growing up to do. You said you were not sure about how you felt for him? Do not settle. You may be feeling all of these feelings of sadness and stuff not because you are in love with him or he is the one. It may be because you just do not want to start over and do not want to be alone. I would rather be alone if I was with than with someone that treats you like you do not exist. He should be a man and deal with uncomfortable feelings and he was worried that you would be mad. So he decides to ignore you so you do not have the right to get mad at him and you end up feeling sorry.
I wish you good luck,
Paula
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