my bf just stop calling me for no reason

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Registered: 01-31-2006
my bf just stop calling me for no reason
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:29pm
my bf for 3 1/2 months just stop calling me for no reason..i been calling him but his ignoring my phone calls seems that he doesnt want to talk to me. what sould i do? i miss him so much!!

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 4:54pm

TO PAULA and JESSICAFOX

I guess you guys are right and to paula yes i guess im so scared to be alone and even im only dating him for 3 1/2 months im used to be with him and talked to him everyday now even the day is short its seems that it will take 3x more for me to forget about him...especially if I remember the good days..or maybe im just saying this coz im still attached to this guy....actually this guy likes me since 1998. but that time i have BF and his about to get married...and until oneday he saw me again..were both single.but that time i really dont like him. im ignoring his calls and everything..until oneday that i got amazed that! his the guy that every womens dream so to say...well a gave him a chance. but now everything changes..well i guess guyss are stupid they dont like to be treated GOOD they like to be treated BAD..THEY WANT A CHALLEGING RELATIONSHIP...and now im still depressed sometimes i dont want to go home coz all the memory is there...im trying to find a way out to stop this crazy feeling..if i could just erase all the memory..THANKS TO EVERYBODY FOR BEING SO PATIENCE!!! YOU ARE HELPING ME TOO MUCH

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Registered: 10-22-2004
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 5:39pm

He has every reason to be insecure, especially if his wife cheated on him. But, he has to learn for himself how to deal with the insecurities. You can't help him with that issue. It's something he has to do!! He has to learn to trust again, and he will, whether it's with you or someone else. When it's "the one" for him again, and it may be you, he will be willing to take that chance, no matter what happened in the past. I just know, that when a man loves a woman, and truly, and sincerely cares for her, he would never do anything to hurt or disappoint them. That's a fact!! Ask any man, who is in love, or have been in love.

I'm glad you didn't take my advice as being negative. It's just that I went thru a similiar experience, not quite the same, but similiar. In the beginning, his meanful behavior, was there a week after we started talking to one another. I just ignored it, because I wasn't that into him yet, but like you said, "you fall fast" for them, and before you know it, your hooked in him, and the behavior you seen in the beginning, continues, and you can't really get out of the relationship because your hooked. It's harder to get out, once your hooked. Please take it from me, because I allowed his behavior to go on, and he would hurt me everytime, and I just didn't know what too do. But after he hurt me for the last time, I had to find within myself to stop the madness, and leave him alone. I did for 2 mos, but broke down, and called him, and he hurt me again, and I couldn't take it anymore. I kept asking for the azz kicking, so I deserved it. But I learned from it. Even though it was so painful after we finally broke up, it took almost one year of NC, to get my head together. I was so hooked, and I was depressed, sad, and just cried all the time. I understand where you are at. I was there. But I made it thru, even though it was hard, and I'm going on 14 mos of NC. Yes, I did it, even though I still think of him, I can never go back there. The relationship ended for a reason, and I had to accept that. I don't want you to go thru that BS. It hurts so much, trust me. If your hurt now and he makes you cry, the tears won't stop until you put your foot down, and stop it yourself. After what I've been thru, I will never allow another man to mistreat or hurt my feeling again. I made a promise to myself, and I want you to do the same. Trust me when I say, if you get out now, it will save you some heartache down the road. He might be "the one" for you, but you have to be for him as well. Keep us posted, and take care of YOU, please, because if you don't, nobody else will.

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 6:12pm
to dev242 thanks for replying to tell you the truth all the advise that you guys sending me..its really help me a lot and you guys making me strong. i just hope that later tonight that i could feel relax and calm..im to scared to go home coz all our memory is there and bring every thing back..i really appreciate all the patience that you guy give.."THANKS" please pray for me.
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Registered: 12-28-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:13am

Hi Jazz_meeh,

What you are going through is natural, the memories will change and you will get stronger more and more each day. You are just going through a mourning period. We have gone through it or still are. But, it is true what DEV said about saying it would hurt more later. Curl up with a good book, take everything one day at a time. Do not think the year down the road about what you will do with not having him in your life. Things get brighter.

I am not a huge fan of Valentine's Day, either. I rather be treated great the rest of the year than have one year where I guy pulls out all of the fanfare!!

Hope you are having better days!

Paula

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 3:16pm
i want to say thank you for the people who reply and give advise for me here...ACTUALLY RIGHT NOW MY BOY FRIEND AND I START DATING AGAIN..WE HAD A WONDERFUL AND ROMANTIC VALENTINE EVENING YESTERDAY...WERE BOTH HAPPY AND RIGHT NOW I DONT HAVE ANY REGRET THAT I GAVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE....I HOPE THIS IS A LESSON ALSO TO THOSE LADYS THAT RESENTLY HAD A HEART BROKEN AND THEIR BOY FRIEND ASKING FOR ANOTHER CHANCE....REMEMBER WERE ONLY HUMAN AND NOBODYS PERFECT....AND ITS UP TO US HOW WERE GOING TO HANDLE OUR RELASTIONSHIP. my advise is WHY DONT WE HANDLE ARE RELATIONSHIP LIKE A GLASS..WE NEED TO TAKE CARE OF IT SO IT WONT BE BROKEN COZ IF IT IS ITS HARD TO PUT THE PIECES BACK TOGETHER....MORE POWER TO EVERY BODY GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!!

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