my boyfriend wants to move
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|Fri, 01-31-2014 - 12:03pm|
i met my current boyfriend a few years ago. he wasnt in a place emotionally to start a relationship and he had a family member pass away. he moved from new york to the west coast to resolve things and clear his head. we talked the whole time and he decided 9 months ago to move back here to be with me.
we had some fights when he got back. mostly over small things. insecurity issues that came up. ive always tried my best to be open with him and make his transition here better, knowing how hard it was for him moving futher away from his family. they live closer to california. my family has been so supportive of him and welcoming. all of my friends love him and love how happy i have been.
he has been here short of a year (9 months) and wants to move again. my situation doesnt really afford me to move with him. if he did move it would probably be to his hometown which is not a major city and doesnt offer any opportunity for me. i would be living his life if i moved with him.
i'm not sure what to do. we broke up so he could figure it all out and make a decision. we are still here in new york an i have been extremely depressed about how immobilized i am. i want him to stay. i also know i cant force an ultimatum or decision on him in a certain timeframe. i also know its only been about a month of this limbo and i am already going crazy. ive been trying my best to just be patient and focus on myself completely.
i guess i just would like some support or insight into what others would do. should i just move on knowing he probably will move? i wish i were enough to keep him here but i dont think i am. and i am having such a hard time processing that. it feels like he just moved back yesterday, and i dont know where or what city he would be happy in. i wish he would give it a full chance here.
i am heart broken :(