my ex is getting married...

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Registered: 04-16-2003
my ex is getting married...
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 5:46pm
My ex is getting married in three weeks. While we were dating, his ex girlfriend was on his mind. I knew that and although I was head over heels for him, gave him up. I knew I wouldn't be secure knowing he still had feelings for her so I told him to go get her back. He hesitated a bit but in the end, did, and now they are getting married. She's a sweet girl, I have no hard feeling towards either of them and we are in fact still good friends. Unfortunately this all happened over two years ago and I am still head over heels. I feel desperatly that he was my "one". I think about him constantly and he shows up in my dreams all the time. I'm not going to do anything stupid like stop the wedding or tell him how I feel. It is just torturing me and I've been rather unsucessful in getting him out of my head. How do I get him out of my head???? I've never had someone I was in love with marry someone else...
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Sat, 10-09-2004 - 9:16am
Hi Bean,

Listen I know how hard it is. My ex-husband got married 10 days after our divorce was final. It sucked! All I can say is that as I was told, you need to stop letting him live rent free in your mind. I know it's easier said than done but when he comes to mind you need to force yourself to think about something else.... worst case scenario, humm to yourself a good song, maybe Hound Dog, I Will Survive, etc... anything that would help your mind be free of him. The more you think about him the longer it's going to take for you to get over him. I did just that and I can honestly say that whenever I think about my ex, I only hope that he and his current wife are doing well... I do not harbor bitter feelings for him, from your post, you don't either... That's a start, it has to be awful to think about someone who you love and hate at the same time. I read a post a few minutes ago and one poster said that you should mark off your calendar of the days that you don't have contact, well with you I would do the same, put a big X on the days you feel you thought of him less and I think it might make you feel better when there are more X's than not on that calendar... just a thought. I do wish you luck. Lucy