My ex keeps contacting me

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Registered: 09-17-2003
My ex keeps contacting me
Sun, 07-31-2005 - 2:37pm

Hi Ladies,

I'm not sure what I'm trying to gain here...I probably just want to lend ears of some of the ladies on the board.

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. We broke up, because we argued a lot over stupid stuff and also he is moving away in a few months and my ex doesn't believe in long distance relationship.(his ex cheated on him when they were having a long distance relationship) Anyway, it doesn't really matter the reason we broke up. The thing is that we choose to breakup instead of working on our problems. We ended up breaking up over the phone, but I wanted to say proper good-bye in person and end it respectfully. My ex went to europe for 3 weeks right after we brokeup, so we couldn't meet up before he left(i was hoping we would, but he didn't make the time) We arranged to meet up when he came back. I had spent the time he was gone trying to get over the breakup. It was hard of course, but because we were fighting a lot and he was being a jerk towards the end, I knew that the breakup would do good for me in the long run. So I kept telling myself that and I was actually ready to say good-bye to him...or I thought. I was determined to end it until he started sweet talking to me. I got sucked back into it again and we spent the next 4 wonderful days together. But in the mean time I was "freaking" scared thinking "I'm making the big mistake! I will get hurt again! Everything is great right now, but the problem will come back...etc, etc." So We talked about it again. He kept saying that he can't lose me, but he doesn't think that long distance will work. I thought about it over and over with different options, but I'm not confident that it's going to work. So I had to end it again. It's harder than it was a month ago, because this time we ended it when things were in good term. It's been 3 days, but he keeps IMing me just to have some kind of contact with me. I'd hate to do it, but I'll have to tell him not to contact me.

Again, I don't really know what I'm trying to gain here, but thanks for listening!

byandmm