My Ex Lashed Out at Me Via Myspace

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Registered: 12-10-2006
My Ex Lashed Out at Me Via Myspace
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:16pm

I broke up with my ex almost 2 months ago...I moved out of the apt. we had been sharing and I moved back home (It had been a long distance relationship so I moved to his city to be with him...800 miles away from my home). It was a really painful decision bc I loved and cared about him deeply, but I strongly suspected (and later confirmed it) that he had been lying to me about some things in his life. He had wanted to try to "work things out" and "try again" but I finally decided that, I had taken a huge risk moving and didnt have faith anymore that he really even wanted to be honest with me...and that we wanted the same things in our lives.

Anyways, after I moved back he tried to contact me and I didnt take his calls... One day I checked his Myspace page and I see that he wrote on his blog a msg. titled "to: "MY NAME". He addresses it to me, saying that I didnt try, I was afraid to take chance,and all this other crap,blah, blah... And all these people were "commenting" on the letter. I was so shocked that I emailed him asking him why he did that? Why couldnt he have just emailed me and not been so G.D. public? I'm a private person and he knew that... I just couldn't believe even he would stoop that low...it just really hurt me...
As a result, I took my profile on myspace down bc I was just sick of dealing with it...

Anyways, I've resolved that I won't be checking his profile again on Myspace... its just so hard...but I know that'll only cause me pain to look at it...And if he knows I'm checking it, I'm sure he'll once again try to hurt me.

Just had to vent that...thanks for listening.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:30pm
oh gosh, i'm so sorry that happened! i can completely empathize with you, something similar happened to me, except that he broke up with me and didn't exactly lash out, just did some very disrespectful and hurtful things via the internet. i can completely understand how you feel and i'm sorry that happened because that type of behavior is the hardest thing for me to deal with. and having had it happen in the opposite way to me, i could have completely lashed out back but i am being the bigger person. at least now you have even more reason to believe you did the right thing. i know it's a double edged sword but it's good that you took your page down and do not go on there, cause like you said, it will only hurt you!
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:35pm

Oh, I'm so sorry. But you are doing the right thing by not getting pulled into the drama he's trying to make out of this. YOU know what the truth is, it doesn't matter what strangers on the internet think.

And as the other poster said, this just confirms you made the right decision. This says volumes about his character.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:41pm

BTDT...my ex put up a string of blogs about me and our relationship. He WANTED me to read them and acknowledge them...he wanted me to be angry/upset and lash out back at him so that he could "prove" that I was the b!tch that he was describing, because no one, not even *his* friends, believed the junk he was putting on there.

I broke up with my ex because I too believed he was lying about many things (not to mention cheating - at the time even though he says it was "just emotional" cheating...ha). Anyway, he tried the "we can work it out" yadda yadda yadda. I finally woke up after 4 years of mistreatment and moved on with my life.

In the grand scheme of things it all breaks down to a lack of maturity. My ex was 30 years old at the time of this going on...can we say "act your age, not your IQ?"

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