My first love just broke my heart TWICE

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Registered: 05-05-2006
My first love just broke my heart TWICE
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:32pm

I was reunited after 18 years with my first love of a lifetime; unfortunetly he lived 800 miles away but we started communicating at least every other day and realized that we were still madly in love with each other. We planned for him to relocate back home(his idea) and start a life together, then one day he didn't call as usual, then another, then he wouldn't return my calls- no explaination - no clue- he just vanished- He called once in between saying he was very busy and a little tired and so sorry for not calling then again nothing for 3 weeks. WHY would someone do this, I know he loved me and I know he has always had commitment issues but this time we were even better together then ever- we talked in ways we never did before and really communicted, I think thats why I am so perplexed-then he's gone without a word. What do I do? I still love him and I do feel he loves me-My mind says forget but I soulfully love this man. Any Advice??? Please!

UPDATE: I called him today with of course no response. I just cannot believe that I was so wrong about someone. We're not kids- hes 45 and I'm 43 with complete lives but I ALWAYS have loved this man and I REALLLY thought he really loved me. I have no ides how somone can not explain themselves. My head says get over it, but I didn't forget him the first time, I'm sure i won't again- All men in my life have been compared to him and all lost ( I've been in two serious relationships since our original breakup 18 years ago) only to find out he's the biggest jerk. But if he called this very second I would still love him, now that's pathetic.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Fri, 05-12-2006 - 8:00am

What is it about him that you love?

Susan

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