My guy and my bestfriend...?

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Registered: 03-05-2007
My guy and my bestfriend...?
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Mon, 03-05-2007 - 12:44pm

here is my scenario,

Sometime in January was introduced to Mr. X by a mutual friend over the phone. Mr. X mentioned that he was looking fo a galfriend and i suggested my bestfriend. They talked on the phone once and did not hit it off. We talked and hit it off right away. However, Mr. X and my bestfriend have been chatting online and i have been chatting with him as well and talking on the phone. I tell Mr. X that this situation is turning into a potentially explosive situation and want out. He tells me he likes me and wants to go out with me and so we tell my friend, and she seems ok with it. So i am thinking that since i am going out with him, my friend and Mr. X were going to stop communicating as much, but they dont. They chat everyday and it starts to make me feel uncomfortable and so i talk to my friend about it and she says she is going to stop even thought she doesnt see anything wrong with it. But she doesnt....i panick because sometimes i log on at 10pm and both are logged on and obviously chatting. Mr. X lives out os town and him and i have been going back and forth for a month and i really really like him. And i tell my friend this all the time. I feel like his attention is now being split between my friend and i. So i tell him i am uncomfortable with him chatting with my friend on a daily basis when i am dating him...AND...he stops talking to me. He just went cold turkey on me and still chats and now calls my friend. I am feeling weirded out by it. I havent talked to him in a week, took him off my messenger list (childish i know, but i couldnt bear seeing him logged on and not talking to me but chatting with my friend). I am pissed because now things are weird with my friend and she is not my fav. person at the moment...its an unwritten rule that you dont do that with a guy your friend is very much interested in. So me and Mr. X are not talking and things dont look good with my bestfriend either. I cant understand why he just cut me off like that....and still talks to my friend....could it be that they have liked each other all along and now i am the idiot. My friend and i always said that neither one of us can date someone the other has dated....i dont know anymore....Quiet sad and pissed off......i definitely didnt see this one coming...PLEASE HELP!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 4:28pm
Hi confusedmoi, that is weird. I'm thinking he was stringing you both along or just liked (likes) having lots of online attention???