My heart was just broken

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Registered: 08-09-2004
My heart was just broken
Mon, 08-09-2004 - 11:48pm
My boyfriend and I were together for 2.5 years and we were living together when he decided to move back to NY from CA because of a good job opportunity. The plan was for me to move there in a few months until 3 weeks ago. He's always had symptoms of depression which I worried about and when he moved to NY, his sister convinced him to see a therapist. Apparently, she made him realize that although he loved me, he's not in love with me. We haven't had sex in almost a year and he always said that it was because he gained a lot of weight and felt disgusting. I figured he would come around when he was ready and I tried to be patient. Before that, we had a great sex life.

He would call me everyday just to tell me how much he loves me and how lucky he was to have me. I think that's why this comes as such a huge shock. He says it's for the best and really won't talk about it too much. The funny thing is, he did call me a few days ago but luckily I wasn't home to answer the phone. I keep thinking that he's going to realize what a mistake he's making and we'll get back together. Am I fool for thinking that? I'm going to be going back to the east coast over Labor Day weekend and he said that we should meet up and get together. I'm seriously considering it just to see if the feelings are still there between us. I know he loves me and I really feel that we could work this out if he just gave us a chance. Help, any advice out there???? I don't want to set myself up for disappointment but I'm not sure if I'm ready to give up on us yet either.