My long distance fiance wants to break u

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Registered: 11-05-2003
My long distance fiance wants to break u
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:29am
This guy proposed to me this year and left me to a forigen country for his job. I am still in school and grauduating this year. Recently, He just emailed me and told me that he wants to break up and wants the ring back. I know if I tried harder to keep the relationship and move to live with him after graudation might keep him with me. But, since he asked me for the ring back, i think i will just break up with him and give him back the ring. Cuz I feel he has no respect for me and he doesn't care if he hurts me either. what a Jerk! Wounldn't you all agree with me? I feel like such a waste of time being with this guy. hate him.

What do u think i should do? Is there any way to end a realtionship nicely and still be frends? Or should I just be mean to him? he asks me for the ring back, so cheap.

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Registered: 02-06-2004
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 6:24pm
I just read your post about your bf wanting to get back together with you. Is it really worth it? This is a wishy washy guy and you truly do not sound like you love him... so why waste your time? And if you think he is cheating on you, then you do not trust him. Without trust, you have nothing in a relationship.

My advice would be to save yourself some heartbreak, find a guy who is geographically more deisrable and someone who you actually want to be with. Not someone who is going to play games and ask for his ring back over email!
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 1:02am
red, yes, i don't like him at all, it's so out of mind and out of sight...

The reason why i don't wanna give back the ring is because he hasn't paid for my phone bills and shipping bills, he's such a cheap looser. You are right, he played games and dumb on the email, and then he write another stupid email to ask to get back with me. I am pretty sure he's cheating on me, or doing something really stupid...

It's worthless and waste of my time. How can give him back the ring tho? He's all the way in a different country.
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Registered: 09-11-2003
Sat, 07-10-2004 - 7:10pm
Hey Sassy Girl,

Sorry I was MIA; I was busy at work and didn't get online a lot.

If you don't trust this guy, then there is nothing to go back to. I don't know your situation but I Have a few friends who did get back with their ex-fiances, and for some it works and is trying and for some it blows up. I know I could never go back to mine. we lived together in the same place for 10 months and he broke my trust. Without trust there is nothing there.

I would probably give the ring back if you can.

How do you feel? You say you are over it? See, when my fiance left, I rode a big emotional rollercoaster for awhile. I still am getting over it...did you guys spend much time together?

Anyway, do what you feel best. Did you email him back?

Good luck,

LawyerGirl

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