My New Years Eve breakup

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Registered: 03-26-2003
My New Years Eve breakup
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Tue, 01-01-2008 - 12:47pm

Some of you may know that I've been involved with someone for the past five months.

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 12:14pm
Cheers to us both on our new beginnings, I left my husband new years eve..
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 5:51pm

I have read your posts for 3 years now, and I have always commended how you responded to the people on these boards. The best advice you have given to me and other people, is taking the steps to "acceptance". You've always said, that once you finally accept the guy wasn't the right one for you, your healing process begins. Your hurting, and you have to go thru the process to move on and get back to your life. You've been there before, and if you remember how you succeeded in the past, you will be fine, and you know that. You just have to get over this hump!!!


I do agree with you, when you mentioned finding balance between sticking to what you know in your heart is the right thing to do, versus, giving people the benefit of the doubt. I believe, giving benefit of the doubt is a hard thing to do, because people are human and we all make mistakes. It's just that when people continue to make the same mistake, and you keep forgiving them, then it's no longer acceptable, and they really don't care if their hurting you. So, I think people should be given second chances, it's just that you

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Registered: 06-03-2004
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 5:54pm

Hi Sheri,


In 2004, I

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 7:44pm

Sheri


I am sorry about your breakup. I read so much of your good advice on these boards, to myself but mostly to everyone else.

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Registered: 06-09-2004
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 5:51am

Sheri-


Not being present, I do not know, but I see many guys equate career success with confidence. Maybe he was becoming depressed due to his job situation, and withdrawing? When I get depressed, I withdraw, however, I will talk w/ whomever I am dating and try to explain it to them. I do not think it is a correct way to act NOT to call, or ignore ppl.


You are very brave. What you did had a lot of integrity, and self respect. Hugs.

seachells

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 12:45pm

Wow, you guys are making me tear up with all your kind words--I really appreciate it.


I miss the good things about him but I'm actually doing ok and I sure don't miss the stress!

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 4:08pm

Hi Sheri


I know that it's hard; however on the flip side of things, it's better that it's over with in this short amount of time verses it being more years involved. Breaking up hurts-period, but once we decide to do it, we can soon start the healing process.


Good Luck!

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Registered: 05-20-2005
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 7:35pm

Hi Sheri-


I have lurked around these boards off and on for a couple years.

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