My way older boyfriend dumped me

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Registered: 08-04-2004
My way older boyfriend dumped me
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Sat, 06-04-2005 - 12:39pm
I am a 21 year old college student who was dating a much older guy (36) but he was NOT AT ALL the stuffy type that people assume when I tell them his age, for an age difference of that magnitude, we got along excellently but he called things off after 3 months because.. this will sound bad.. I am a virgin and he felt empty without the level of intimacy and passion that he's used to in relationships. I have had lots of BF's before but in high school I was shy and didn't get approached my guys very much so I would date any guy that asked me out, thus, I ended up dating a whole wack of guys I was never sexually attracted to; therefore, we have a 21 year old virgin Danielle that makes guys want to run the other way. Anyhow, I am not mad at him because he was so respectful and I could tell it hurt him to have to do what he did.. but now I am at that pessimistic "I will never meet another guy as great as Paul" stage that I hate. I just thought maybe someone would have some good advice or comments to alleviate my misery.
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Registered: 07-28-2003
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 2:13pm

Ah, pocketpixie,

One day you'll be a different person and you'll look back on Perfect Paul and not see the perfection. You may see that he was good for you at the time, but if you keep your eyes peeled, you'll see him through the eyes of a 25 year old, then a 30 year old, and finally and old lady with a lifetime of experiences.

Don't sell yourself short right now.

You'll be ok.