my wife has left me after depression

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Registered: 11-01-2006
my wife has left me after depression
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Wed, 11-01-2006 - 2:51pm
My wife has decided to leave me after being together for 10 yrs. She has been depressed for many years and has just now got better. As a result of this she doesn't think she wants to be with me in the future and to have children and has moved out. I've not been the best of companions as I had an alcohol dependency issue which has been sorted out in the last year. When I have was drunk I was caught on 'dogging' websites. She knew this and although it was just , well not even a fantasy but a curiosity she is citing this as a reason for separation. I don't really blame her for this as when drunk and on tablets for depression I was a different person. Now I (and for the last year) am clean of alcohol of and antidepressants but she is still and with reason citing the behaviour I carried out then. I'm finding it very hard coping with this as I'm well now but am being very sensible. She says she ant't get over what i have done in the past but still can't give me a definite answer about where we go from here. Divore or consiliation? I'm a mess and feeling a lot of guilt but in my defence I'm not that person anymore. Any help with coping will help. Thanks for listening
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 3:53pm
Are either of you in counseling? Would she go with you?


Carrie

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Registered: 11-01-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:07pm
Yes, we are organising to have counselling, I'm not sure how long it will be and whether this will do any good but I'm prepared to 'bare' all and see what happens. I suppose if she's prepared to do this all is not lost but looking on the black side I think she may use the counselling as a platform to move on. Thanks for the reply!