NC and getting thru the hurt
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| Fri, 12-28-2007 - 9:02am |
I have been reading many posts on the board about NC and how hard it is has been since your breakup. In most of the posts, I am noting that the woman have been the ones who were broken up with, and they dont understand how thier SO can ignore thier calls or not be the warm wonderful person they once were.
I am on the other side. I was the one who broke things off a couple of months ago. I wanted to let you know that I have the same exact feelings all of you do- so your SO is probably going thru the same things. My ex had a ONS over a year ago- we did not reconcile for 7 mos but then we did and things seemed to be going well, I "thought" I was happy but one small incident made everythign come crashing back- and I realized I could not live like that. It wasn't fair to either of us and I had no choice but to end things.
Its been sad and its been hard. I maintain NC on my end, but he doesn't. I dont seem to have a problem wtih the contact and I tried to break it for his sake, but he still calls. So I feel like that is his problem now. We only talk for a few minutes- how the family, etc... We dont discuss our social lives and we get those awkward silences. We really dont know what to talk about. Like what I am reading on the boards- sometimes I can be friendlier than other times. Sometimes I don't respond right away.

It doesnt sound mean at all that you want him to suffer. I feel the same way, and it seems lovergrl does too.