NC and impulsive calling
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NC and impulsive calling
| Sun, 12-04-2005 - 7:24am |
Hey everyone,
Still trying NC. I won't even go there..but what I need are tips/tools NOT TO CALL. It is the point of no return/Enough's Enough. I am 100% sure NC is the ONLY way to move on in my case but every once in awhile usually early in the AM after a sleepless obsessive night, I call him.
HOW CAN I NOT CALL? Short of tossing the phone...

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Take care and good luck.
thanks..I read the book..loved it..mostly..some of it was a little silly but the basic premises ring true for me. Sadly my ex knows how his little flings are impacting me whilst I tried to be one of them..I thought I could be liberated and enjoy sex with him still..NOT...first of all there is a health concern (he is religous about condoms but still...) and second it is SO impossible to go from committed monogamous love for 3.5 years to being one of his sex buddies. NO MORE..the madness ended Dec. 4 for me. It took since Sept. 16th.
Happily I do not have a chance to see him til April when he comes home for a week. I will have family here for Easter so I will be busy PLUS there is NO chance of inviting him to my bed again which I pray I never ever do.
I also do not think he and I can ever be friends. Sigh..
Hi,
I know exactly how you feel. I am also going through the whole NC period right now....and it is so hard. It seems that once you break up they(the ex) becomes an obsession in your mind. And they are just waiting for you to be distracted to sneak in to your head once again. IS so hard!!! Why cant we get it to our head that if they wanted to talk to us they will be the ones making the call???? I broke down last week and i went to his house and it was a huge mistake. We didnt have a fight or anythign, he actually told me how much he loves me, but at the same time he doesnt treat me right. So i know that is not right for me to be there. At least i am not crying as much, I still feel sad and lonely and yes i am going through some depression but I know I will be fine. I for once will take the advice of the first person that gave you advice and i am goign to make my self a little index card with the reasons as to why we are not together and how he hurt me. Also another thing i have notice that has help me is that when i get the impulse to email is that i will write an email and say everythign that i have to say and instead of sending it to him i send it to my self and then i will just re-read it and it will help me to realize that is not right for me to be like that.
I wish you the very best luck and please contact me if you need someone to talk to or if you are tempted to call. Most likely i will be going through the same my self.
E.
carran111@yahoo.com
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