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NC Broken- We Talked
| Thu, 05-15-2008 - 10:42pm |
So, after almost 6 weeks no contact I called my ex tonight.
He owes me some money and I really need it (living on student loans).

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Workingirl - I just wanted to say thank you for posting your message. It's actually helping me. I was sitting here trying to remind myself of the reasons that I can't talk to my ex. Part of me really wants to, but you articulated perfectly why it can't happen (too often, at least). Like you and your ex, we would slip too easily into that comfort zone and then it would be too painful to back out again. It's such a struggle and yet I haven't had the strength to cut off complete contact with my ex. I don't initiate contact, but I am not able to ignore his calls or postpone calling him back. I can only hope that someday I will have more strength. I am very sorry for what you're going through (I'm embarrassed to say how long I've been going through this - but I guess that's the result of not cutting off contact completely). Thank you again for what you wrote - I think it will help a lot of people.
(((Hugs to you)))
You are not alone.
Maggie
Thank you for the replies! Although at the moment I dont' think I deserve all the praise.
We talked again yesterday...and we talked and we talked and we talked.
All I can say is WOW workingirl for being as strong as you are!!! You sound so mature, I am curious how old you are?
I know it is HARD to keep the no contact going...I vowed after the last rude thing my ex texted me several weeks ago that I was DONE with him...then those darn dreams happen (with the ex in them being sweet) and all rationality seems to fly out the window lol.... My guy (the ex bf) was my first (and short) relationship after my 18 yr marriage broke up, so I was a walking mess for quite some time..didnt think I would live, ya know? He (ex) never tried to meld his life into mine..it was ALL about him too, so I know how you are feeling.
We text each other about once a week. Sometimes he initiates it, other times I do. I DO get frustrated when he starts texting, then after a few lines, stops talking back to me..I know he reads them, but just decides HE is done chatting..grrrr..
Just this morning I initiated the texts to ask how the cabins addiction was coming along (i had helped him with the foundation and initial wall framing) and he started texting back. I ended it after a few minutes with a 'Have a great week, Take care' and he sends a texted kiss back to me and tries to continue texting..I just ended it with 'Im busy, cya' because I just KNOW I could keep chatting all day! LOL.. and he has hinted several times on how he thinks he will be ready to jump back into the dating pool soon..I try my best to ignore those hints because I know I am not ready to date anyone yet after the heartache the ex caused me. BUT if he ever said he loved me still and wanted to work things out I hope I can be as strong as you!
~Lisa =))
I don't feel strong at the moment! I feel confused and scared yet happy all at the same time. I just don't know what to do, so I am praying a lot and taking it very slowly.
Only 25? Another wow...I have daughters that age! Your mom must be right in the 'old soul' as my kids, I don't believe, are as relationship wise as you! ((HUGS))
Well, sorry to let ya in on a not-so-secret secret, LOL..I am 43 and relationships and breakups hurt and confuse just as much now as they did when i was young! Bummer...
I know about the 'I feel we are suppose to be together' part..thats how I felt too. I use to spend whole weekends up at my ex's place playing 'house' so to speak and helping him build/remodel his place. We worked great together side by side, had a lot in common, and basically enjoyed each others company.
BUT..
He had unfinished business he realized he needed to take care of (past ex's) that he just couldnt get out of his head/phone/pc..and I tried HARD to handle it, but it ended our relationship...we would break up, get back together over and over..usually me initiating it as I wasnt willing to share him with his past. We talked a lot about it, then on my Birthday (of all days) he tells me that we needed to break for good because he was tired of hurting me so much. It about killed me.
I miss him in a way..I got tired of the 'games' and dont miss those..but the good times come back and haunt me some days..and him telling me that he will be free from his past soon and ready to date without baggage gets my hopes up..lol..though I dont know if I can trust him ever again.
Take it slow like you are..keep us posted!
~Lisa
~Lisa =))
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