NC harder than it looks?

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Registered: 03-16-2005
NC harder than it looks?
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 7:10pm
After spending a couple weeks after the breakup immediately afterwards trying to be friendly I decided the other day I should not be so quick to answer messages and emails and all that stuff because it was making me sadder and sadder. I think NC is making me more miserable! Does NC really work or am I just pushing him further away?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 8:22pm

It works...but for YOU, not him.

And yes, it gets harder before it gets easier...but since the alternative is basically never being able to move on (if you keep in contact with him), it's worth it.

And no contact means NO contact...limited contact is much less effective and it'll take you a lot longer to get over him, because you basically reopen the wound every time you have contact, rather than allowing it to heal.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-07-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 4:41pm
It's been 12 days for me. She's written me a few emails I never answer but, feels like everything good is missing from my life. Going from glorious to sucky in one quick fell swoop *laughs* I very rarely dreamt of her before our breakup now every night and waking up with that sense of loss. They say it will be better and it will just not any time soon. Just stay the course and keep your head up.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 6:33pm

"Going from glorious to sucky in one quick fell swoop "
LOL you totally understand then. I'm beginning to think email and IM are horribly rotten tools. Evenings and weekends seem to drag on so slowly now. I just can't seem to stay busy enough.

Hang in there ascendent!

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Registered: 03-07-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 7:28pm

"Evenings and weekends seem to drag on so slowly now. I just can't seem to stay busy enough."

Yup, right on the money. Just keep at it and be strong :) thanks for the support *smiles*