NC but I have to talk to him
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| Sat, 11-27-2004 - 2:58am |
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years 10 days ago after a month of arguing. I asked him not to contact me ever and that I was disappointed and disgusted with his behaviour... and he objected and said that he cant have me out of his life, that I m too precious to loose...anyhow I insisted and he never tried to call after.
I realized that we never settled the issue of the money that he owes me. So I sent an email politely asking when he intends to pay me back , he never replied so I sent another one more agressive and told him he is a looser and asked for my money. He never replied either. SO I called him the next day and asked why he did not reply to my emails. He said he refuses to reply to someone who wants to hurt him that bad! so anyhow I told him I want my money soon because I want to cut all strings with him. so we agreed that he will tell me how he plans to pay them either by bank transfer or cheque... and hung up. it was not easy talking to him. After one week of agreeing he will send me the plan of payment he never did. I feel I need to tell him that the money should be in my account by new year. and t hat I changed my mind and I dont want to give him the choice for installments.. but also I prefer not to contact him ever. So I was thinking of delegating this task to one of my friends or maybe asking a lawyer to do it for me...
I would like to hear from you guys if there is a way to tell him how I want him to pay back my money without having totalk to him or email him.
Any advice??
thnx
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I would not advise asking a friend to do it, if anything try to get a lawyer if he still refuses to get on track of paying you back. you may want to call around and ask them how you should proceed and fees etc (they can be pricey) so make sure it is worth that considering the amount he owes you. This sort of thing can be tricky though, depending on what he owes you for, you may not be entitled to all of it in the eyes of the law so make sure you can seek professional advice before proceeding.
I have not been in this situation before, but I would advise to just compare what he owes you vs the effort and expense it takes to get it and go from there.
Well he said at first that he wants to pay me back asap because he doesnot want to hear me nagging about it anymore.
He used the money for his tuition fees. He wrote me two cheques with the amount but I never cashed them kuz he never saved enough money in his account. The cheques are one year and half old and are useless now but i still have them.
He said it is my money and he will pay it... but he never asked me about the details of the payment. I feel he is just sleeping on it in order to get sometime to collect the amount. I dont want to be nice and give him all the time to get the money. I want him to suffer and to pay it soon. but since I dont talk to him anymore I cannot ask him to pay me within a month. So how can I tell him that he should pay me soon?? do I just email him?