NC not working too well

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Registered: 02-11-2008
NC not working too well
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 4:08pm

So I had a meltdown this past Friday. Couldn't get out of bed or anything. I turned my phone off at 5:14 Friday afternoon and did not turn it on until Sunday afternoon. BAD idea. My mom and sister were frantic worried about me (probably thinking I was suicidal). So at 2:30 Sunday morning, my sister texts and calls my ex to see if he's heard from me. He broke up with me a week before. He had sent me two texts since then. And I only answered one of them with an 'ok.' Well I had two texts from him Sunday. He was worried sick about me and asked if I wanted him to come over. I didn't respond.

Today he texted me again. Said I wasn't answering his texts and he wanted to make sure I was okay and that he was hoping we could be friends sometime down the road. I went ahead and IM'd him that I got his text. So that started the conversation of him being alone. He said he never meant to hurt me and that he made the decision for us/him because he's just not into the relationship right now. He said he wanted to make sure I knew that I did absolutely nothing wrong. He is just spent and needs time to himself since he's never been alone. He said he loves me too much to keep me in the relationship when his heart isn't in it. He also told my sister the other night that he loves me so very much.

I guess because I have custody of my kids and never really have alone time, I have a hard time understanding. He said last week he honestly has done nothing but go to work, see his daughter and just veg out. He said he's doing much better than he has in a long time. He also said he doesn't want to commit to us dating right now. That we will wait and see how things are down the road. So far, he's just had one week of alone time.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 6:14pm
Sorry you are going through this. It is hard to understand someone's need for alone time when you don't get any due to having kids.